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This conversation petered out, but I think it's important enough to put out as an official proposal to talk about in Lightbulbs.
Proposal: To set a closing deadline of March 31st for the Goodbye and Good Riddance Thread (I think the actual date is good thing to debate in Lightbulbs), with the caveat that any ungifted Santa or Slacker Santa giftees at that point will have the option to throw their names back into the pool to be gifted by other volunteers (with the wonderful, "shit happens, no hard feelings" attitude Vortex and others demonstrated in B'craxy). This would be a way for people who found themselves unable to gift for one reason or another to bow out gracefully and for everyone to get closure on the year without the thread going on for months.
Seconds?
Do we need more? I can never remember. I'll fifth, if so.
Sixth.
Also...
Dearest Slackistas,
I have never, ever, EVER participated in the Secret Santa or even the Slacker Secret Santa thingum. Here's why: I suck.
But? I know I suck, so I just don't do it. I won't get anything on time. I might not even get anything at all. And heaven knows, even if I find the perfect gift and actually purchase it -- on time or not -- I'll never get it in the damned mail. That's not an exaggeration. I once found the perfect T-shirt for my friend, Antipodean (possibly Julie, although not Juliebird, to you). It read "It's all about me," and that was sort of her signature (even though it didn't dwell in reality). That shirt lived so long in my drawer (in the bag!!!) that eventually, I tossed it. Ditto the Girl Scout Thin Mints I bought for Cashmere (okay, I didn't toss those; we ate them). Anyhow, all of that is on account of my sucking. It's a whole big sucking thing. And it's okay. Embrace your fucking suckitude.
If you suck, like me, just acknowledge it, and don't play. Watch all the pretty, nice, friendly, socially ept people play, and cheer them on from the bleachers. And on Christmas (Hanukkah, Solstice, Festivus) Eve, say a little prayer (chant, meditation, medication, whatevs) for them in the coming year.
AND THEN BE DONE WITH IT!
Love,
Cindy (who, verily, sucks)
Yes, I have acknowledged the fact that I suck. Thank you.
I think that blaming people is the wrong way to go. Shit happens. Life happens. There's no point in pointing fingers or trying to make them feel bad. I support having a defined end, but I don't support telling people that they suck.
Embrace your fucking suckitude.
Wow. This seems kind of harsh.
ETA: I probably shouldn't get in the middle of this since ND is one of the ones who hasn't sent his gift yet and I love him, but it's hard not to feel defensive after this. He admitted he screwed up and is actually in the process of rectifying it. I don't think there's any need to make him feel worse than he already does.
EETA: Massive x-post with his post in Lightbulbs. I believe that Cindy didn't intend to point a finger at him in particular, so I'm going to step away now since I think the point has been made.
I know I suck, so I just don't do it.
Actually, this is me too. I WANT to do it, but my track record is so bad, I shouldn't even try - even if no one blames me for failing, I feel terrible. I don't, in general, suck, but this sort of thing? I suck at it. I'm better off acknowledging that I suck at it and bowing out than trying and failing and feeling awful.
