but giving orders like that shows a fundamental lack of respect.

Completely agreed. This couple's issues go much deeper than one not liking the other's friends.

On the other hand, the husband participates in the disrespect, so maybe that is what works for them.

I have one friend whom I know has had cosmetic surgery, because she's shown me the scars and she talks about it all the time. She's had a tummy tuck (the reconstructed bellybutton really weirds me out), a breast enhancement, an eye lift, a face lift, probably more. Another friend says she'll have the removing-loose-skin surgery after her next and last child; she lost about 150 pounds before her first pregnancy. I would have that kind of surgery done, although I imagine the recovery time and the pain is greater than one is generally led to believe. If I could be sure that a) I'd get exactly what I wanted, and b) I wouldn't suffer infection, scarring, and/or death as a result, I might get some stuff done, but I'm mainly happy with what I've got. Much of what I dislike could be fixed by losing 60 pounds, so I can't really justify cutting on myself to do what, theoretically, I should be able to do myself. I'd leave my boobs alone unless they were down to my knees or something drastic; I don't like the idea of losing sensation or especially being cut on right there.

As I recall, surgery to make breasts match in size is covered under some insurance plans.

Do any of you have a realtionship with a loved one where you would order their friends out of the house?

Hell no. Also, what flea said.

Happy birthday, Ouise and jengod!

I would consider some plastic surgery if someone gave me a gift certificate that had to be used for that (removing things--getting things added seems way more freaky to me). But it's not the sort of thing I'd save up my money for and decide it's a good plan, I don't think.

Much of what I dislike could be fixed by losing 60 pounds, so I can't really justify cutting on myself to do what, theoretically, I should be able to do myself

So much this. And also what meara said.

Right now I want to have some moles removed because they're in the way of where I want a tattoo.

Much of what I dislike could be fixed by losing 60 pounds, so I can't really justify cutting on myself to do what, theoretically, I should be able to do myself

Yeah, this.

The concept of me telling DH who and when he can entertain in his home, or him telling me who and when I can entertain in my home is unthinkable. Yes, if I want to have a bunch of my friends over I discuss it with him. Yes, if he wants to have his friends over he discusses it with me. That would be common courtesy. We don't tell each other what we can and can't do. Don't want to be the boss of an adult.

I can't imagine ordering DH to do anything ( except follow my rules for the perfect grill cheese sandwich). Esp get rid of his friends. I do have one friend of his that I am not crazy about. But DH understands my feelings, so my tolerance is higher than it was before we talked. and he isn't the kind of guy you have long dinners with - so it works. I don't know of any friends I have now that DH doesn't like, but in the past there were some. Unless some one is downright rude and insulting, I can't see not dealing with them . for example, Most of the friends DH had that I didn't like were musicians- that didn't talk to me because I didn't talk music. ( they weren't rude that is just all there was in their lives) He's getting something out of that relationship that I can't give him, so it doesn't take away from me- and maybe it adds because he can get his music chat somewhere else.

The money thing bugged me , not because of the difference, but because of the agreement that was being broken.Don't make an agreement you can't keep. and when things are so skewed- there should be a good reason for it. DH and I came to an agreement at one point that anything over X amount had to be discussed. It is looser now, because we have more money but we also have a better idea of what is a 'personal indulgence' . a cell phone is not, an iphone is. DH spends bigger chunks of money than I do, but except for the guitars ( or parts for the guitars) it is things like power tools - and I benefit from them as well. We had some wicked fights about money - and I think we will always have different ideas about money, but we now have similar goals so we have common grounds.

Why does this make me think of Ple?

This Year's Winner for "Most Withering Venn Diagram"

I got a copy of WtVPPLtL today, finally. My normal routes in life do not include B&N areas. But today I made it to one. There were two on the end cap and that was a good thing, because THE ENTIRE humor section aside from that end cap was OFF the shelves in some great book section migration that will have the humor books invading food writing.

I got a copy of WtVPPLtL today, finally.

I did too.

G. gave me one of the 10 he has bought (so far). He and J. say hi to people they know.

That venn diagram made me laugh outloud. Love it.