Much of what I dislike could be fixed by losing 60 pounds, so I can't really justify cutting on myself to do what, theoretically, I should be able to do myself
Yeah, this.
The concept of me telling DH who and when he can entertain in his home, or him telling me who and when I can entertain in my home is unthinkable. Yes, if I want to have a bunch of my friends over I discuss it with him. Yes, if he wants to have his friends over he discusses it with me. That would be common courtesy. We don't tell each other what we can and can't do. Don't want to be the boss of an adult.
I can't imagine ordering DH to do anything ( except follow my rules for the perfect grill cheese sandwich). Esp get rid of his friends. I do have one friend of his that I am not crazy about. But DH understands my feelings, so my tolerance is higher than it was before we talked. and he isn't the kind of guy you have long dinners with - so it works. I don't know of any friends I have now that DH doesn't like, but in the past there were some. Unless some one is downright rude and insulting, I can't see not dealing with them . for example, Most of the friends DH had that I didn't like were musicians- that didn't talk to me because I didn't talk music. ( they weren't rude that is just all there was in their lives) He's getting something out of that relationship that I can't give him, so it doesn't take away from me- and maybe it adds because he can get his music chat somewhere else.
The money thing bugged me , not because of the difference, but because of the agreement that was being broken.Don't make an agreement you can't keep. and when things are so skewed- there should be a good reason for it. DH and I came to an agreement at one point that anything over X amount had to be discussed. It is looser now, because we have more money but we also have a better idea of what is a 'personal indulgence' . a cell phone is not, an iphone is. DH spends bigger chunks of money than I do, but except for the guitars ( or parts for the guitars) it is things like power tools - and I benefit from them as well. We had some wicked fights about money - and I think we will always have different ideas about money, but we now have similar goals so we have common grounds.
I got a copy of WtVPPLtL today, finally. My normal routes in life do not include B&N areas. But today I made it to one. There were two on the end cap and that was a good thing, because THE ENTIRE humor section aside from that end cap was OFF the shelves in some great book section migration that will have the humor books invading food writing.
I got a copy of WtVPPLtL today, finally.
I did too.
G. gave me one of the 10 he has bought (so far). He and J. say hi to people they know.
That venn diagram made me laugh outloud. Love it.
re: plastic surgery - I'd like to get my left eye opened up a bit more - the right eye got an inadvertent lift/opening due to scarring from my fall, and so now I'd like to have the left eye match. It's totally me - no one else sees it unless I point it out, but it bothers me.
The couples thing - yeah, I'd never order a spouse's friends out of my home. I'd go in the bedroom and ask them to keep it down if I needed to go to sleep, but that's about it.
I LOVE that Venn diagram. Bless.
That Venn diagram made me giggle, even as I was noticing the wrongness of it. (Because I have spent WAY too long teaching about Venn diagrams.)
Ancestry.com is creeping me out. It's a very useful website -- in about 20 minutes, I was able to locate a relative that I'd been searching for for years. However, when you search for a last name, it gives you all these "interesting" facts about the name in a sidebar. One of them is sometimes life expectancy of people with that name as compared to life expectancy of the general population. And the family names that I've looked up have all had a life expectancy of about ten fewer years than average.
juliana, do you have a good recommendation for running shoes?
Thank you all for buying my book. I'm all humbled and stuff.
