I'm arguing that arbitrary boundaries are inimical to intimacy.
You think the boundaries are arbitrary, but maybe they make a skosh more sense to the people who have them.
That's a radical interpretation of the text.
But it was a fun leap to make.
Don't you trust, however, that the people who are giving the advice think that there are sensible reasons for those particular red flags? I mean, you believe red flags exist, right?
I'm just disagreeing with dissuading Allyson from allowing things to happen with her neighbor.
You went way past that, though.
Allyson came into the thread with what seemed to be a request for a bolstering a conclusion she'd already come to.
Substitute into the equation things you think are red flags--is she still in the wrong for looking for reasons not to pursue it?
where on the web can I upload video that I want seen by invite only?
Don't you trust, however, that the people who are giving the advice think that there are sensible reasons for those particular red flags? I mean, you believe red flags exist, right?
I saw green flags too though. Thoughtfulness, interest, communication.
Be it resolved, everybody in this discussion believes Allyson is a babe, a good friend, a talented writer and worthy of love. We want her to have love and blowjobs. I'm pretty sure Warren Ellis will back us up on that. There are differences of opinion on strategies towards achieving those romantic goals.
You went way past that, though.
I do not regret pimping for Love's Bitchiness.
where on the web can I upload video that I want seen by invite only?
I think that's an option on Photobucket.
I'm arguing that arbitrary boundaries are inimical to intimacy.
Arbitrary boundaries are inimical to intimacy ONLY with the people who fall outside those boundaries. That's why they're boundaries.
Married guys, alcoholics, republicans -- well, YEAH, I'm really really okay with closing off the pathway to potential intimacy with them. For instance.
I do not regret pimping for Love's Bitchiness
You'd be around to pick up the pieces of any collateral damage generated by your pimping, right? It'd be only fair.
It'd be only fair.
ita, you make it tough out there for a pimp.
Don't hate the playa. Hate the game.
Playas only love you when they're playing.
I gotta say I've gotten hurt a lot by pushing my own boundaries when it comes to love. And I regret nothing. I'm not sure all of my partners could say the same.
