I'm antsy. I really want/need to get out of the house, but it's so freaking cold!
Oz is the highest-scoring person ever to fail to graduate.
Willow ,'Him'
Spike's Bitches 34: They're All Slime and Antlers
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risque (and frisque), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
vw bug - Jan 17, 2007 9:17:41 am PST #1318 of 10001
Mostly lurking...
SailAweigh - Jan 17, 2007 9:19:38 am PST #1319 of 10001
Nana korobi, ya oki. (Fall down seven times, stand up eight.) ~Yuzuru Hanyu/Japanese proverb
I think there's an element of jealousy, too -- I think a lot of people with kids would never *want* to admit to thinking about what their lives would be like if they'd opted out of parenthood, so seeing other people make that choice is a thorn in the side -- "How come they get to [perceived image of endless travel, parties evey night, more spenging money, no one throwing up on you at 3 a.m.], when I didn't?"
I think I ran into this a lot after my divorce. For a number of reasons, I left the kids in my ex's custody. The number of people, women in particular, who asked me "how could you DO that?" as if I was the most unnatural mother in the world chapped.my.ass. It's not like I left them in the woods to be eaten by wolves. The one time a woman looked at me and said "that must be terribly painful for you" I nearly threw myself on her shoulder and cried my eyes out.
sj - Jan 17, 2007 9:20:31 am PST #1320 of 10001
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
Thanks, Cindy. I'll keep that in mind. I have been eating instant oatmeal every day for a couple of weeks. Maybe I can get TCG to eat oatmeal on the weekend.
Toddson - Jan 17, 2007 9:20:55 am PST #1321 of 10001
Friends don't let friends read "Atlas Shrugged"
Just an(other) quick drive-by:
For those snowed in, suggestions for how to spend the time. Including - Jilli are you there? - making Peeps dioramas.
Topic!Cindy - Jan 17, 2007 9:22:41 am PST #1322 of 10001
What is even happening?
The one time a woman looked at me and said "that must be terribly painful for you" I nearly threw myself on her shoulder and cried my eyes out.Isn't it amazing that a small kindness can break a person like that? I'm sorry you caught so much crap for making a personal parenting decision, Sail. And like you said, it's not like you left them in the woods to be eaten by wolves. My husband is every bit the parent I am. We don't do everything alike, but we're both crazy mad in love with our kids, and they'd suffer no more without me than they would without him.
sj - Jan 17, 2007 9:22:42 am PST #1323 of 10001
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
It is very cold outside but not that windy, so I didn't feel it as much.
DavidS - Jan 17, 2007 9:22:45 am PST #1324 of 10001
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."
You know sj, you don't have to fiddle with fancy steel cut oats that you do in a slow cooker over night, or anything special you have to get at TJ's or anything like that.
Yeah, I don't even like steel-cut oats. They're too tiny. I like Quaker and I put in much less water they don't come out so glutinous, but with noticeable (and tasty!) grain. Five minutes and boom! Hit it with butter and maple syrup and life is good.
Scrappy - Jan 17, 2007 9:23:53 am PST #1325 of 10001
Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.
Erika--My brothers and I were not only born in the same city, we were born in the same freaking hospital. One has lived all over the world, been married three times and is a huge science geek. One has had the same job since he graduated, been married forever, has never traveled anywhere but Florida and is very politically conservative. And then there's me. I love them, but sometimes it's hard to believe we share the same family tree.
Cass - Jan 17, 2007 9:25:49 am PST #1326 of 10001
Bob's learned to live with tragedy, but he knows that this tragedy is one that won't ever leave him or get better.
I love being an only child. Maybe that makes me a selfish ass. I dunno.I was/am both. Only child of my parents and then middle child when my dad met the stepmom when I was sixish. Gotta say? I love being an only child. Suits my personality a lot better. But the sibs are good for making me an aunt, gotta give them props for that.
There are kids screaming outside. Can I beat them into silence?
Rick - Jan 17, 2007 9:27:21 am PST #1327 of 10001
He said "I am not so attached to my DNA that I want to see it replicated."
This is a good point of view, considering how little regard our DNA shows for us--it slices and splices and recombines itself in every generation, so that the extended gene sequences that are "us" disappear as quickly as possible. That DNA is a user.