I've gotten the "You are selfish for not having kids" argument.

It was a head scratcher for a long time until I realized that I was being selfish for not sharing in this particular mom's misery. Her kids are great...some of the best...but she's just the miserable type. So, my choosing not to have kids appeared to be making a statement about her choice, I guess.

eta: Huge apologies for the weird bolding. I thought I'd fixed the tag and then had to run out to see a client. Yikes. I hate committing that kind of faux pas.

I think there's still a strong cultural bias that contends that Parenthood is the right and natural role of adulthood. That people that don't choose it are selfish or immature or something.

I don't hold to that theory, but I think it's entrenched.

I do think that some people are so surprised by their experience of parenthood - in ways that they couldn't have anticipated - that they get shirty about people who decline to have children.

Bottom line: people should be respectful and not assholes.

In Cancer News:

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ATLANTA, Georgia (AP) -- Cancer deaths in the United States have dropped for a second straight year, confirming that a corner has been turned in the war on cancer.

After a decline of 369 deaths from 2002 to 2003, the decrease from 2003 to 2004 was 3,014 -- or more than eight times greater, according to a review of U.S. death certificates by the American Cancer Society.

The drop from 2002 to 2003 was the first annual decrease in total cancer deaths since 1930. But the decline was slight, and experts were hesitant to say whether it was a cause for celebration or just a statistical fluke.

The trend seems to be real, Cancer Society officials said.

"It's not only continuing. The decrease in the second year is much larger," said Ahmedin Jemal, a researcher at the organization.

Cancer deaths dropped to 553,888 in 2004, down from 556,902 in 2003 and 557,271 in 2002, the Cancer Society found.

Experts are attributing the success to declines in smoking and to earlier detection and more effective treatment of tumors. Those have caused a fall in the death rates for breast, prostate and colorectal cancer -- three of the most common cancers. (Watch a Harlem doctor's fight to care for poor women )

war on cancer

When I'm Queen of Everything, I shall decree that the phrase "war on X" be banned unless it is referring to an ACTUAL WAR. t /pet peeve

Generally, I assume people have their reasons. But the weird thing is, I don't have to ask nosy questions...people unpack their baggage in front of me all the time. I'm not sure why.

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New risk factor identified for pancreatic cancer

Although advances in oncology have brought therapies to deal with many different cancers, pancreatic cancer remains very difficult to treat. Worse yet, unlike lung cancer and smoking, or cervical cancer and HPV, little has been known about the etiology of the disease. Now a new study has revealed a link between pancreatic cancer and a relatively common infection, one that many people might find surprising: gum disease.

I think there's still a strong cultural bias that contends that Parenthood is the right and natural role of adulthood. That people that don't choose it are selfish or immature or something.

I don't hold to that theory, but I think it's entrenched.

It is definitely very much entrenched. I've been agonizing about it SIMPLY BECAUSE of the cultural norm. I don't even know what I think about it anymore.

war on cancer

And that bitch employs biological warfare.

Today is the kind of day where I wish to shout "Have you the BRAIN WORMS?!?" at many many people.

Now I am going to be thinking this at people all day.

It's actually more polite than what I have already been thinking at them, so maybe that's a good thing.

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Come over to my side and I'll make you Vice-Queen of Everything. Pinky swear!