And it's your prerogative to have not been offended by that. Personally, as upset as I was with the "gay is icky" remark, I was far more angered with her qualification that woman-to-woman was probably okay though.

Can we define pile-ons? Is it more than a number of people agreeing about something?

Not wanting to halt the flow of Miss Moveitalongpants's work, but:

It's kind of like the "I'm wearing a rubber glove on my head right now!" effect Fay has already outlined -- look at how quickly her hypothetical conversation goes from "uh, this is my weirdness" to "people who don't like this are the real freaks!"

I post that ita bugs me sometimes. Msbelle posts that ita bugs her too, and she thinks ita's stinky. Jesse says, yeah, ita stinks! and her momma dresses her funny! I come back and say, yeah, I agree with BOTH of you, and what's more, I'm gonna kick ita's ass!

That's a pile-on. I never ever would have posted that I would kick ita's ass to start with -- I was just saying that sometimes, she rubs me the wrong way sometimes. But the other people, intentionally or no, are egging me on and raising the stakes. Does that help?

I am personally horrrified by Allyson's posts to Zoe, even more so because she was pretending to be nice. Allyson later admitted that her intention was to chase Zoe off. That's not acceptable to me.

The thing that's especially fascinating to me about this (and I'm mostly using your post as a placeholder, smonster), is the subsequent conversation in here about how maybe she does have mental problems that make her unable to interact like a normal person -- and that was OK?

I was wondering the same thing, Jesse.

But the other people, intentionally or no, are egging me on and raising the stakes.

This is a valid point. Which is why, maybe, there needs to be a cooling off period. Like, someone says, "Okay this post really offended me and I want to discuss it." And either we talk about it right then and then take a break. Or we take a break and then talk about it. Maybe there needs to be a 24 hour moratorium on discussion before taking action. Give people a chance to cool down.

I post that ita bugs me sometimes. Msbelle posts that ita bugs her too, and she thinks ita's stinky. Jesse says, yeah, ita stinks! and her momma dresses her funny! I come back and say, yeah, I agree with BOTH of you, and what's more, I'm gonna kick ita's ass!

But if msbelle and Jesse believe their points, and you come to believe yours, what's the problem? If you don't believe yours, well, it seems like an odd case of peer pressure -- do we really see that a) as having happened, and b) a sufficient risk to proactively create procedures to avoid?

The thing that's especially fascinating to me about this (and I'm mostly using your post as a placeholder, smonster), is the subsequent conversation in here about how maybe she does have mental problems that make her unable to interact like a normal person -- and that was OK?

No. That was decidely Not Okay either. Honestly, if you are defending me and you are saying I deserve a special break because I Am SPECIAL. Grr..... so insulting. Thanks for the defense, but not in that way.

Well, to be fair, I was willfully malicious, and I think the other folks were genuinely concerned, which I do think is different.

if you are defending me and you are saying I deserve a special break because I Am SPECIAL

Also, irrelevant. I don't care if you're peeing on my shoe because you're not potty trained, or because you're a sick twitch, I just want the urination to stop.

And since I'm not qualified to potty train, it's best you stop standing anywhere near me.

Do we having voting procedures and whatnot? YES! good.

I made a proposal for a vote.

It got seconded 6 times.

What now?