That's beautiful. Or taken literally, incredibly gross.

Buffy ,'Potential'


Bureaucracy 1: Like Kafka, Only Funnier  

A thread to discuss naming threads, board policy, new thread suggestions, and anything else that has to do with board administration and maintenance. Guaranteed to include lively debate and polls. Natter discouraged, but not deleted.

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Wolfram - Jan 20, 2003 5:54:12 pm PST #3399 of 10001
Visilurking

Mixed in with all this is the whole is-he-or-isn't-he-debate (S as M), when M had been banned.

Why do we put up with the whole torture of S & M?

(It had to be said.)


Steph L. - Jan 20, 2003 6:05:48 pm PST #3400 of 10001
I look more rad than Lutheranism

But please remember even if people are new here, they're not (hopefully) new to living among the human race. Of course you can say things to someone you've known a long time that a relative stranger could not say. I think a newbie should go to any community equipped with that basic bit of social knowledge.

I t heart Cindy.


Holli - Jan 20, 2003 6:14:58 pm PST #3401 of 10001
an overblown libretto and a sumptuous score/ could never contain the contradictions I adore

...and now we've moved on to bad puns, which is both an integral part of the community and very, very silly.

Anyway. I think it's an important distiction between Rob and S that Rob apologized when asked, and S not only refused to apologize but went on to insult more people and denied the possibility that he may have offended at all. That, and the fact that we're all quite on edge because of ther recent influx, and on the defensive because of the recent suspension of mieskie, made a relatively minor incident blow up like Sunnydale High.

So what can we do to avoid this in the future? I think we might need a group Doblerization, to keep already-frayed tempers from flaring, and I think we need to remain polite, refrain from personal attacks, and try to clear up misunderstandings with a minimum of fuss.

And, for the record, I hope no new posters feel like they don't belong , or have been excluded in any way. I've seen a couple of posts start with things like "I'm not sure if my opinion counts because I'm new..." and that should absolutely not be the case. If you're willing to act like a part of the community, you should expect to be treated like one.


Jesse - Jan 20, 2003 6:17:01 pm PST #3402 of 10001
Sometimes I trip on how happy we could be.

Thanks, Holli. You're a wise woman.


Steph L. - Jan 20, 2003 6:25:29 pm PST #3403 of 10001
I look more rad than Lutheranism

I think we might need a group Doblerization

I also t heart Holli.


Wolfram - Jan 20, 2003 6:32:13 pm PST #3404 of 10001
Visilurking

...and now we've moved on to bad puns, which is both an integral part of the community and very, very silly.

Now I know I'm in the right place.


Elena - Jan 20, 2003 6:57:59 pm PST #3405 of 10001
Thanks for all the fish.

I have seen people reacting more strongly to certain posts than I ever would. I would not have been offended; clearly others were. My point the entire time has been with the response to offended parties.

The few times I've been able to respond to a post that offended me in a timely fashion (the curse of being a late night poster is that the discussion often begins and ends before I can get my $0.02 in) I try (I hope I try) to ask the poster for clarification, and then I explain my opposition to their position. If the response of the initial poster is to call me oversensitive, I don't think that's condusive to adult discussion.


David J. Schwartz - Jan 20, 2003 11:09:41 pm PST #3406 of 10001
New, fully poseable Author!Knut.

Going way back to before I had to go to work -- perhaps my definition of "gossip" is not the same as Betsy's. Her example, of friends discussing minor annoyances caused by other friends while everyone is still friends, is healthy social behavior, yes. What I think of as gossip is less healthy -- to me gossip is mean and directed at the Other, which in this context might be newbies. I don't think of Betsy as mean or exclusive, so I was taken aback. I understand her meaning a little better now, I think. Not to say that I love the idea of Buffistas talking about other Buffistas behind their back, but I suppose talking is not necessarily talking smack.

I wouldn't be here if Buffistas weren't in general very genial people, easy to get along with. This is why things like mieskie's arrival bother me. I suppose I reacted less to the content of his posts (although I found him tiresome and, at least on a couple of occassions, offensive) than to the fact that people were avoiding the thread because of him. I want to maintain the friendly tone as much as possible. At times it isn't possible, and at times there are people making waves whom I think should know better. But then I know that I've posted while cranky at times and said things I shouldn't have.

As for Schmoker, I chimed in with others when he made the panties comment to Shawn because a) I thought it was rude and after mieskie I told myself to speak up when I thought someone wasn't respecting our community standards, nebulous though they might be, and because b) like Hec I'm convinced that Schmoker and mieskie are the same person. I think b) may have been influencing other people's reactions as well, but I could be wrong.


§ ita § - Jan 20, 2003 11:12:07 pm PST #3407 of 10001
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.

To all: if you can't prove b), back off of b).

It's not fair otherwise.


David J. Schwartz - Jan 20, 2003 11:13:09 pm PST #3408 of 10001
New, fully poseable Author!Knut.

All right, that's fair.