I only mention that this should be a private board outright because it seems that many wish it could be. But I don't natter so I doubt I'd really feel the impact on the comraderie as the core Buffistas do.

This joining thing? Hardly unique. These joining pains? Hardly unique. What is pretty Buffista about it is the level of discussion about them, in my experience. Which I think is more a good thing than a bad.

I agree.

And it may blow over. It really doesn't seem like too many of the several hundred new registrants are actually posting much.

BTW, there's a link to Tim's posts last night on the Whedonesque blog.

Just to join the processing party a bit...

If we make this a private island, it'll die. I'd rather be flooded with trolls than become some kind of private members club, I really would.

It could die either way -- if we become a private island, we'd probably burn down and flicker out, with the flood of trolls, we'd probably explode at some point into a ball of flames. Either way would be too bad, but the first is almost certain, and we can guard against the second.

But I don't natter so I doubt I'd really feel the impact on the comraderie as the core Buffistas do.

It's funny to me seeing the little sub-communities that seem to be popping up. I mean, I'm hardly in the show threads at all, and when I am I see a lot of people I don't know. And that's cool. So if we're talking about the comraderie of, say, the Firefly thread, that's going to be a different comraderie from Natter, or Spoilers, and I don't think they'll ever be fully integrated again. Which is fine by me -- not many people really have the time to keep up with all the discussions in every thread.

I am in a strange place with regard to this board. I've been onboard since before Buffistas was a term. I've been an active poster, but not so much with the proliferation of threads at WX. I do think I've had some input intellectual, emotional and financial in the creation of this board, and I stop in every day, even when I don't have time to really catch up, or to post at all. I'm emotionally invested in the posters--the people--I've gotten to know over several years and three boards. By nature I turn a gimlet eye on newbies, but I do that in real life so it shouldn't be a surprise here. But it's a silent appraisal, a judgment-withheld period until I get a feel for (not of! serious!) the new persona.

Problem being, I'm rarely a visible member of this community any more. Because while I'm reading and nodding silently, circumstances most often pull me away from the computer before I have a chance to post my take on a conversation, or an opinion while the subject remains in recent memory. I'm mostly okay with that. But people who don't know me assume, when I finally do have a chance to make a comment, that I'm some clueless newbie, and it bothers me that something I say to someone I feel I know may be viewed as tacit permission to be as familiar by someone new.

urgh. Not fing finished.

I haven't the experience of board-implosion that Allyson and others have had, but I do heed the warnings. The spectre of the possibility frightens me. But at the same time, I don't think we can become insular and private, because as wonderful as we are as a group, as groups within the group, as clusters of individuals and as a conglomerate, we will stagnate without an influx of new people and new POVs and new ideas.

Finished now.

But at the same time, I don't think we can become insular and private, because as wonderful as we are as a group, as groups within the group, as clusters of individuals and as a conglomerate, we will stagnate without an influx of new people and new POVs and new ideas.

It wasn't my impression that anyone was actually arguing that as a serious idea. Were they?

ita said what I've been trying to phrase for some time now in my head. And so much better. And then Jesse and Beverly came and took care of the responses.

I'm wondering what the interpersonal online expectations are, and why they seem to be so different from meatspace expectations.

I'm quite new to the Internet-community-ing, and the Buffistas are the only place I've ever posted in. My expectations (and the way I try to behave) are pretty much based on 'what would I do if those people were actually in front of me'. I'm talking to people, after all, not to the screen and the computer-resident-demons.

I go way back to TT, but I've got both the language (and cultural) barrier and the fact I've never met any Buffista F2F. After a (relatively) long time of posting, I still wouldn't use a lot of stuff I may say to somebody whom I've actually met IRL or who is able to see my face and expressions while I speak the words (well, they won't, because I move my hands so much when I speak that mostly they'll just try to dodge a straying limb, but they'll hear my tone of voice while taking cover). However, that's just me, and I can understand the kid who immediately wants to join the groups who are already in midplay in the sandbox.

It's funny to me seeing the little sub-communities that seem to be popping up.

Even in the Natter thread there are little sub-natter-ers, like the people who are awake while most of the Not-UnAmericans sleep.

it bothers me that something I say to someone I feel I know may be viewed as tacit permission to be as familiar by someone new.

Several people de-lurked saying they felt it's unfair that they know so much about those who post, while nothing is shared by them. I think a lurker may feel so familiar with some of the posters, that they may post from that I-know-you place, forgetting that 'if I can see you, you aren't necessarily able to see me', if I'm making any sense at all. It can be a great way to start off, feeling comfortable and welcome, but it's sometimes difficult to remember that things take time to work properly from both ways (oh, and I do miss Beverly's presence on the boards).

I know I had a point somewhere, but it's very much gone now. Oy. Sorry about that.

Through a lot of this discussion I'm wondering what the interpersonal online expectations are, and why they seem to be so different from meatspace expectations.

Speaking from personal experience and observations, I think that the reason for the difference in online vs. meatspace interactions is that a lot of us haven't actually met each other, so the accompanying body language or tonal inflections are not there. It's quite clear to me who has met each other on this board, due to an added level of familiarity. However, since the conversation flows so fast here, it can be easy to forget who's met whom and assume a higher comfort level among the majority of Buffistas than what is actually there.

I feel much the same as Beverly. I was around in TT, but I had to go away during the WX tenure. Coming back and trying to fit in again has been hard, because of the afore-mentioned comfort levels and whatnot.

arguing that as a serious idea. Were they?

No Liz, just thinking out loud about some points others have made.

(((Nilly))) Nice to be missed, although I'd really rather circumstances were such I didn't have to be missed.

Not to change the subject, but the Golden Globes reminded me that I really want to do the Foamies again this year.

A few people spoke up in favor of it the last time I mentioned them, and since the Oscars are but a few short months away, I was hoping we could get a thread going for nominations?

(For newbies, the Foamies are the Buffista Movie Awards, started last year by Angus.)