The problem is that the person who got offended didn't stated it in the most civil manner either, IMO. Mind you, if somebody told me "I'm going to write a killfile so that I don't have to read you anymore", I'd get a bit peeved myself too.
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Bureaucracy 1: Like Kafka, Only Funnier
A thread to discuss naming threads, board policy, new thread suggestions, and anything else that has to do with board administration and maintenance. Guaranteed to include lively debate and polls. Natter discouraged, but not deleted.
Current Stompy Feet: ita, Jon B, DXMachina, P.M. Marcontell, Liese S., amych
PaulJ - Jan 18, 2003 2:52:32 pm PST #3042 of 10001
Burrell - Jan 18, 2003 2:54:21 pm PST #3043 of 10001
Why did Darth Vader cross the road? To get to the Dark Side!
The problem is that the person who got offended didn't stated it in the most civil manner either, IMO. Mind you, if somebody told me "I'm going to write a killfile so that I don't have to read you anymore", I'd get a bit peeved myself too.
Agreed. But someone else's rudeness is no justification.
PaulJ - Jan 18, 2003 3:00:53 pm PST #3044 of 10001
Well, speaking only for myself, if somebody pointed out to me that they had felt offended in such a rude manner, I'd be *much* less inclined to apologize to them than if they just said: "hey, cool it off".
Burrell - Jan 18, 2003 3:07:34 pm PST #3045 of 10001
Why did Darth Vader cross the road? To get to the Dark Side!
I guess I wasn't clear. I didn't say an apology was in order, did I? I think I just suggested that board etiquette is to back off rather than continue to irritate others, even if the first episode was entirely unintentional.
victor infante - Jan 18, 2003 3:08:01 pm PST #3046 of 10001
To understand what happened at the diner, we shall use Mr. Papaya! This is upsetting because he's the friendliest of fruits.
Fair points, all. I don't think it's worthwhile to point fingers at any particular case, so much as it is to understand where the general tension is coming from. I think it basically comes down to new folks needing to take some time to understand the culture here, and us old-timers making an effort to not be quite so reactionary when newcomers act in a way that's...unconventional for here.
DavidS - Jan 18, 2003 3:40:22 pm PST #3047 of 10001
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."
I think I just suggested that board etiquette is to back off rather than continue to irritate others, even if the first episode was entirely unintentional.
This is crucial because the onus is not on one person to make things right, but for both parties to make an effort to ease the friction and move the discussion back where it belongs.
§ ita § - Jan 18, 2003 3:54:29 pm PST #3048 of 10001
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.
In case it's not always clear, I'm not stomping unless I say I'm acting in an administrative capacity.
I'm 99.9% sure it's that way for *all* the stompy feet, and as futile a request as it might seem, our posts should be weighed appropriately.
Jon B. - Jan 18, 2003 3:57:01 pm PST #3049 of 10001
A turkey in every toilet -- only in America!
I'm 99.9% sure it's that way for *all* the stompy feet
Absolutely.
victor infante - Jan 18, 2003 3:58:03 pm PST #3050 of 10001
To understand what happened at the diner, we shall use Mr. Papaya! This is upsetting because he's the friendliest of fruits.
I'm 99.9% sure it's that way for *all* the stompy feet
Agreed.
§ ita § - Jan 18, 2003 4:00:43 pm PST #3051 of 10001
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.
'Swhat I figured.
It only counts if we say it counts.