Deena, in Bitches:
Bil broke my brain and it wasn't even his fault. I read this and thought it said, "will you let him get..."
firstbrain: Oooh, easy gift getting, again!
secondbrain: Let him? He's an adult! What's with let him?
firstbrain: Well, you are the royal keeper of the budget.
secondbrain: But, he's an adult! He earns money! How am I to "let" him? What is this let?
firstbrain: But, you said "he let me" when you talked about cameras, dressers and lamps.
secondbrain: That's different.
firstbrain: Different how?
secondbrain: Because! Well, it was shorthand for something like, after discussing the budget and explaining what I want, Greg and I agreed that these things would be nice to have and doable with some care.
firstbrain: Didn't say that.
secondbrain: Meant it!
firstbrain: Then what would you have done if he'd said, "No, you can't have it?"
secondbrain: Probably said, "yes, dear." OH MY GOD I WOULD HAVE SAID YES DEAR!
firstbrain: Told you so. You have a double standard. Why's that, you suppose? huh? Maybe you're not so feminist in control no one tells me what to do as you think, huh?
secondbrain: I would have sulked.
firstbrain: Oh, sure, marginalize yourself further, why don't you? Let's all go back to being Ibsen's Nora, shall we?
secondbrain: But he doesn't really tell me what I can and cannot do! It's just relationship shorthand.
firstbrain: Huh. Remember books you wanted to buy? Huh? Ringing any bells here? Do you tell him what to do?
secondbrain: NO! Only sometimes, but he doesn't have to listen. Okay, wait, he doesn't tell me no and I don't tell him no! It really is a partnership! Sometimes one of us reminds the other of the realities of the budget, that's all! We work together to get the things we want and need.
firstbrain: Yeah, right. Can we say fanwank?
secondbrain: I'm getting the minister of Kill Stupid People after you.
firstbrain: Not if I get to him first.