Fay, did you DRINK the gross milk??

I did. Or at least, I got through half of it. I'd just arrived in Iasi, having spent 8 hours travelling in the sleeping compartment of a lovely, antiquated train, lying top-to-toe (8 of us in a 6 person space), unbelievably hot and sticky, after spending 12 hours in Bucharest train station. When we arrived at Iasi and went off with our respective host families, we were tired and smiley and thirsty and I entirely forgot the fact that one of our party had warned me to refuse milk if offered it, as it would be sour. When the lovely host family asked if I wanted tea, coffee or milk, a vision of a glass of ice-cold milk sprang to mind and I said milk. And milk came. And it was sour. And I drank it. Or at least, I managed half of it. And I was not sick.

A gay couple marrying pretty much means that one has to think of them having entirely non-biologically productive sex.

I'm a freak for finding this sexy, I know. Nothing to see here. Carry on.

That 65-year-old woman isn't going to have a baby, ever. Maybe she's protected by "grandmothers never have sex".

Depressingly, I'm perfectly sure she is protected by "grandmothers never have sex."

Then by that logic, they should make birth control illegal for married couples, or declare marriages invalid if they couple doesn't produce children, or have to proof of trying to conceive within a certain amount of time. And fertility tests should be required to get marriage licenses. Oh, and to cut down on fornication, single people can't have birth control either.

I'm pretty sure Scalia hates Griswold v. Connecticut, which struck down a law preventing married couples from using birth control.

cereal

Actually, if gay marriages are wrong because they don't do anything to increase the number of babies being born, then straight marriages aren't exactly an ideal institution either. Men should be able to run around impregnating willy nilly, as 'twere -- either polygamous marriages or else just random shaggage. Surely. If it's all about maximising the birthrate.

if gay marriages are wrong because they don't do anything to increase the number of babies being bor

Aww, c'mon, there's a gayby boom! Lesbians are having babies like mad! Gay men are paying women to get pregnant! It's very pro-procreation!

I guess my frustration around some liberal responses to this issue derives from the fact that some people seem almost too eager to make it about something other than homosexuality. So it's really about our culture's hangups with sex full stop, or our supposed hangups with non-reproductive sex, or it's just a convenient pretext to bash liberals, whatever, it'd be better if it weren't "really about" homosexuality because some liberals are actually a bit embarrassed to be defending something as frivolous as people's right to fuck, and have relationships with, people of their own gender. That's how these arguments often come across to me, at any rate.

(I'm not accusing anyone here of this, just trying to explain why I may come across as a bit tetchy on this issue.)

I'm pretty sure Scalia hates Griswold v. Connecticut, which struck down a law preventing married couples from using birth control.

That is one of the scariest fucking things I've ever heard.

It used to be illegal to even send mail that described birth control.

I think it really is about homosexuality, but because the conservatives feel they need to present themselves as more moral and more practical, they're trying to make it about everything else. This way they can say, "It's not that I hate gays, I'm just trying to save the world from the damage they do."

Yep, agreed on that one, Madrigal.

Actually, if gay marriages are wrong because they don't do anything to increase the number of babies being born, then straight marriages aren't exactly an ideal institution either. Men should be able to run around impregnating willy nilly, as 'twere -- either polygamous marriages or else just random shaggage. Surely. If it's all about maximising the birthrate.

Just to chime in, while I disagree with the argument, it isn't actually about increasing the birthrate (for all that our PM has a rather melodramatic view of things). It's about considering the concept of marriage to be tied up in an essential manner with having and raising children. (Nor does this mean that marriage is only about having kids, rather that it's an integral part of the concept.) It doesn't mean that only couples who can/will have kids can get married, and it doesn't mean that married couples should be popping out as many sprogs as they find themselves capable of.

I don't think the argument makes much sense outside a religious framework, insofar as it assumes there's something essential and inviolate in the very concept of marriage, which would not be the case if it's treated as a purely social construction. But within said religious framework, then you have it instituted by divine fiat and designed for a particular conception of families as the basis of society. I strongly suspect that they regard the idea that marriage's primary justification concerns kids as being roughly equivalent to saying that marriage is a sacred union - because this is the stated Biblical logic for its existence in the first place.

Because it's definitionally not feasible for a same-sex couple to procreate (as opposed to particular couples who choose not to, or specific instances of heterosexual couples that are unable to), it's deemed that they erode the definition of marriage in a way that the other examples don't. Which means that people may well stop thinking about marriage in these terms, stop regarding it as a sacred union and start regarding it as a purely societal construct or such like. Then where would we be? We'd get all sorts of problems like adultery, divorce, single-parent families etc thanks to this devaluing of marriage.

Thankfully, of course, we live in the sort of utopian society where that isn't an issue. Best not let gays marry, it could bring it all crashing down.

some people seem almost too eager to make it about something other than homosexuality.

Actually, I was complaining that the conservatives were doing that. They're saying "It's about babies" or "It's about promiscuity", when in fact it's about homosexuality.