AND I gave him my real password.

Sigh. Okay. You know what's even more rude than doing something you'd been asked not to do the day before? Ignoring the person who asked you the day before when they remind you of what they asked you the day before.

Dammit. I really shouldn't be getting all het up about this, but it's very frustrating when I make an effort to be polite, and I'm razzed for it.

double post. Sorry.

Yeah, I know.

Gosh.

Zoe, did you mean to be really rude to Holli there? I mean, it looks pretty damn rude, so if that was your intention - well, it worked.

If not, maybe you could clarify?

Just so that you’re clear, this is completely addressed to you, Zoe.

Everyone gets the benefit of my doubt once, but I honestly can't understand what you are hoping to achieve. A week or so ago, you were all over this board doing the numfar dance of the phoenix is risen, and now you seem to be risking your pass to the Buffistaville doorway. And along the way you appear to be doing everything in your power to make yourself unpopular and isolate yourself from the people of this board.

Posting in a community isn't about sharing a let's get David Boreanaz nekkid hivemind. And it's not about filling in time when you have nothing better to do. No one comes here to entertain you (or, for the record, to chastise you, or quite frankly, to hold your hand and walk you along the path to true Buffistaness)

It is about reading the thoughts and feelings and opinions of those posting around you and respecting them.

You make it impossible for me to believe that you respect this board when you ignore Holli and Fay’s courteous suggestions, when you reject the opportunity to clarify a post as requested by Jilli and amych, when you refuse to acknowledge your borderline comments when pointed out to you by nutty and Betsy, or when you disregard scrappy and Laura's politely worded posts of advise. And that’s just on this board.

I can understand that you might find it intimidating to be asked to go to the bureaucracy thread and defend yourself. But making snide and resentful references to the situation in other threads is not helping. You may be trying to post around the four hundred pound Buffista elephant, but believe me, everyone else can see it clearly. It’s big and it’s wearing pink gingham and it’s caring a PORN sign. And until you deal with it, it isn’t going to go away.

This isn't a chat room. It's not even a particularly fast moving posting board. Partly, that’s because I bet you dollars to doughnuts the vast majority of the people on this board spend a lot more of their time here reading, than writing. And partly that's because people here are aware that every bit of black text they put up on the screen, and every time they press post message, they are telling the community something about themselves. Most people want that to be a positive message.

If a thread isn't moving fast enough for you then you have two choices. You can leave it alone and not poke it. Or you can make a meaningful contribution that shows knowledge of your audience, is written in language and a style designed to elicit responses from your readers and that makes you, Zoe, accessible to the people with whom you seem to want to share your time.

There are no short cuts to fitting in, Zoe. And when you’re one of eight hundred registrations and a couple of hundred active posters? The onus is going to rest entirely in your lap.

Partly, that’s because I bet you dollars to doughnuts the vast majority of the people on this board spend a lot more of their time here reading, than writing. And partly that's because people here are aware that every bit of black text they put up on the screen, and every time they press post message, they are telling the community something about themselves.

I loved your explanation of this board, Julie. It makes me smile. The part quoted above is especially heart-warming to me.

You must have some experience in this sort of thang, Julie.

Nice post, Julie. Thanks.

Can we COMM that post, taking out proper names? Can we add it to the FAQ?