Caves are good, as long as my family isn't in the cave with me.
She's not just a blob of energy, she's also a 14-year-old hormone bomb.
Spike ,'The Killer In Me'
Spike's Bitches 33: Weeping, crawling, blaming everybody else
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risque (and frisque), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
Ginger - Nov 27, 2006 10:23:38 am PST #3304 of 10004
"It didn't taste good. It tasted soooo horrible. It tasted like....a vodka martini." - Matilda
juliana - Nov 27, 2006 10:32:00 am PST #3305 of 10004
I’d be lying if I didn’t say that I miss them all tonight…
I tend to make guy aquaintances more easily, but bond more closely with women. Well, in face-to-face contact. The Buffistas have skewed that quite a bit. Still - I tend to hang out more with guys, but have the deep conversations with women.
Aims - Nov 27, 2006 10:33:39 am PST #3306 of 10004
Shit's all sorts of different now.
t nods
I would say that that is a more accurate telling of my friendships, juliana. Thanks for saying that.
Daisy Jane - Nov 27, 2006 10:37:46 am PST #3307 of 10004
"This bar smells like kerosene and stripper tears."
In my situation (I don't feel I can speak to anyone else's), I feel like the birthday card was a copout. A way of feeling like she was trying to make amends without, you know, actually having to try and make amends.
Also I find, male, female whatever, either one is capable of being an ass. I have 2 best guy friends who I've known for 15 years and 5 girlfriends I've known since I was 13. I can't say none of them have never hurt or dissappointed me (or vice versa), but they've been straight with me, have never been cowards when it comes to facing the problem, and I've never felt like our friendships have been a one way street where I don't get hurt as long as I'm not in their way.
Glamcookie - Nov 27, 2006 10:38:47 am PST #3308 of 10004
I know my own heart and understand my fellow man. But I am made unlike anyone I have ever met. I dare to say I am like no one in the whole world. - Anne Lister
I'm sorry for going all snippypants. Let's blame the other stressors in my life and hug it out. {{{all my male and female Bitches}}}
Daisy Jane - Nov 27, 2006 10:45:43 am PST #3309 of 10004
"This bar smells like kerosene and stripper tears."
I wonder if maybe it seems women hurt us worse or more, because we expect them to know better or understand our feelings better. Not because they're all closer to the earth empathycakes, but because they're supposed to be one of us.
Cass - Nov 27, 2006 10:50:33 am PST #3310 of 10004
Bob's learned to live with tragedy, but he knows that this tragedy is one that won't ever leave him or get better.
In my situation (I don't feel I can speak to anyone else's), I feel like the birthday card was a copout. A way of feeling like she was trying to make amends without, you know, actually having to try and make amends.Which is why the tearing up of the card was totally okay. Actually, would have been okay (with me) even if she really was trying to be amendycakes because you get to choose who is in your life and she'd already caused you pain and betrayal.
Personally, I am still rather surprised when I have more than a couple of close female friends. Just that historically more of my friends have been male. I have a couple of women friends that have lasted more than 20 years and anything newer than those relationships, is unexpected. Just how it is.
Aims - Nov 27, 2006 10:54:31 am PST #3311 of 10004
Shit's all sorts of different now.
wonder if maybe it seems women hurt us worse or more, because we expect them to know better or understand our feelings better. Not because they're all closer to the earth empathycakes, but because they're supposed to be one of us.
I would say that this plays a large part of it. I feel more betrayed when a woman friend lets me down than when a man friend does.
Vortex - Nov 27, 2006 10:58:00 am PST #3312 of 10004
"Cry havoc and let slip the boobs of war!" -- Miracleman
Oh dear heavens, my college alumni association found me.
Who was it that said that we should get the alumni folks looking for Bin Laden?
Based solely on my own experience, I think that guys only befriend girls that they are interested in dating and hope they get lucky one day.
I’m not sure that’s true. I have a lot of male friends. Of the straight ones, I think that many of them would sleep with me if I gave them the chance, but they don’t want to date me.
I have more male friends now than ever. I think I'm too much woman for most of them, though.
Amen. (for you and me)
Very few of the guys I know more than passingly ever make moves on me. Perhaps it's the unsparkle of my personality.
Or the fact that you could kill them with your pinky? :)
Which is nice...except that I never make moves on guys, so it kinda sucks to know I won't be rescued from my own cowardice/issues by someone I've known a while.
Yep. I’ve had a depressingly large number of male friends say something to the effect of being interested in me at some point, but, based on my personality, assumed that if I was interested, I would have said something.
I feel more betrayed when a woman friend lets me down than when a man friend does.
Oh, yes. Like if a man friend gets a girlfriend, I expect to be dropped like a hot potato, but it hurts my feelings when a female friend does it.
Connie Neil - Nov 27, 2006 11:02:44 am PST #3313 of 10004
brillig
I have more male friends now than ever. I think I'm too much woman for most of them, though.
My guy friends know me well enough that I wouldn't have them as more than friends, and most stranger guys are too intimidated. Which pleases me.