Thanks, Aims. While it pretty much has been my experience, I pulled it out specifically to show men in a bad light in reaction to a statement that (I felt) showed women in a bad light. So I truly am sorry that I did exactly what I was bothered by.
Do I wish I was somebody else right now. Somebody not... married, not madly in love with a beautiful woman who can kill me with her pinkie!
Wash ,'Our Mrs. Reynolds'
Spike's Bitches 33: Weeping, crawling, blaming everybody else
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risque (and frisque), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
Glamcookie - Nov 27, 2006 10:19:14 am PST #3301 of 10004
I know my own heart and understand my fellow man. But I am made unlike anyone I have ever met. I dare to say I am like no one in the whole world. - Anne Lister
Cass - Nov 27, 2006 10:19:58 am PST #3302 of 10004
Bob's learned to live with tragedy, but he knows that this tragedy is one that won't ever leave him or get better.
Good luck... I'm currently agonizing over this from the other side. My friend B. cut me loose a few months ago and I'd like to send her a birthday card...I feel it is always okay to send a note or card. It is just best if you don't expect a reply, good or bad. Frankly, you can't know if the card will be happily received or torn up. But if it can work out happily or just quietly heal some bad feelings, it's a chance worth taking if it is one that you fling into the wind with no expectations.
People are just so complicated...
This is why we should all live in caves.Yes! Caves! I like this.
Aims - Nov 27, 2006 10:21:58 am PST #3303 of 10004
Shit's all sorts of different now.
It's all good, GC. {{{much love}}}
Ginger - Nov 27, 2006 10:23:38 am PST #3304 of 10004
"It didn't taste good. It tasted soooo horrible. It tasted like....a vodka martini." - Matilda
Caves are good, as long as my family isn't in the cave with me.
juliana - Nov 27, 2006 10:32:00 am PST #3305 of 10004
I’d be lying if I didn’t say that I miss them all tonight…
I tend to make guy aquaintances more easily, but bond more closely with women. Well, in face-to-face contact. The Buffistas have skewed that quite a bit. Still - I tend to hang out more with guys, but have the deep conversations with women.
Aims - Nov 27, 2006 10:33:39 am PST #3306 of 10004
Shit's all sorts of different now.
t nods
I would say that that is a more accurate telling of my friendships, juliana. Thanks for saying that.
Daisy Jane - Nov 27, 2006 10:37:46 am PST #3307 of 10004
"This bar smells like kerosene and stripper tears."
In my situation (I don't feel I can speak to anyone else's), I feel like the birthday card was a copout. A way of feeling like she was trying to make amends without, you know, actually having to try and make amends.
Also I find, male, female whatever, either one is capable of being an ass. I have 2 best guy friends who I've known for 15 years and 5 girlfriends I've known since I was 13. I can't say none of them have never hurt or dissappointed me (or vice versa), but they've been straight with me, have never been cowards when it comes to facing the problem, and I've never felt like our friendships have been a one way street where I don't get hurt as long as I'm not in their way.
Glamcookie - Nov 27, 2006 10:38:47 am PST #3308 of 10004
I know my own heart and understand my fellow man. But I am made unlike anyone I have ever met. I dare to say I am like no one in the whole world. - Anne Lister
I'm sorry for going all snippypants. Let's blame the other stressors in my life and hug it out. {{{all my male and female Bitches}}}
Daisy Jane - Nov 27, 2006 10:45:43 am PST #3309 of 10004
"This bar smells like kerosene and stripper tears."
I wonder if maybe it seems women hurt us worse or more, because we expect them to know better or understand our feelings better. Not because they're all closer to the earth empathycakes, but because they're supposed to be one of us.
Cass - Nov 27, 2006 10:50:33 am PST #3310 of 10004
Bob's learned to live with tragedy, but he knows that this tragedy is one that won't ever leave him or get better.
In my situation (I don't feel I can speak to anyone else's), I feel like the birthday card was a copout. A way of feeling like she was trying to make amends without, you know, actually having to try and make amends.Which is why the tearing up of the card was totally okay. Actually, would have been okay (with me) even if she really was trying to be amendycakes because you get to choose who is in your life and she'd already caused you pain and betrayal.
Personally, I am still rather surprised when I have more than a couple of close female friends. Just that historically more of my friends have been male. I have a couple of women friends that have lasted more than 20 years and anything newer than those relationships, is unexpected. Just how it is.