Very few of the guys I know more than passingly ever make moves on me. Perhaps it's the unsparkle of my personality. Guys who are going to make moves, it seems, make them right up front, so I can deal with it as appropriate and move on in the applicable manner.
Which is nice...except that I never make moves on guys, so it kinda sucks to know I won't be rescued from my own cowardice/issues by someone I've known a while.
If you don't count friends garnered from b.org, or relatives, my friends are predominantly male. Face to face, it seems that's what sticks.
When I was younger, my friends were about a 50/50 m-f split. Now, they're mostly female, although most of them are married, and I consider their husbands friends too, so... I dunno why I thought I had something to contribute to this conversation.
sj, I would take something (I got them a lot when pregnant, so I still try Tylenol first out of habit, but there are better OTC medications), lie down in the dark, then have coffee before I came back into a lighted room. I would wear sunglasses around the house, if they hit when I had to do something (feed a baby, etc.) and couldn't lie down.
Thanks, Cindy. If I can avoid the panic attack next time, I'll do that, but because of that I couldn't relax enough to lie down or be alone.
My statement was a bad reaction to this:
No offense to those of us who are with the ovaries and whatnot, but there was a VERY good reason most my friends in high school and college were guys.
It upsets me to see women make these kinds of disparaging remarks about other women. Still not a reason to make a disparaging remark about men, so I apologize.
I'm sorry, GC. I didn't mean to cause a bad reaction in you.
And no need to apologize for what has been your experience.
Thanks, Aims. While it pretty much has been my experience, I pulled it out specifically to show men in a bad light in reaction to a statement that (I felt) showed women in a bad light. So I truly am sorry that I did exactly what I was bothered by.
Good luck... I'm currently agonizing over this from the other side. My friend B. cut me loose a few months ago and I'd like to send her a birthday card...
I feel it is always okay to send a note or card. It is just best if you don't expect a reply, good or bad. Frankly, you can't know if the card will be happily received or torn up. But if it can work out happily or just quietly heal some bad feelings, it's a chance worth taking if it is one that you fling into the wind with no expectations.
People are just so complicated...
This is why we should all live in caves.
Yes! Caves! I like this.
It's all good, GC. {{{much love}}}
Caves are good, as long as my family isn't in the cave with me.
