All my best friends have been girls/women. All my guy friends have eventually ended up making moves on me. Based solely on my own experience, I think that guys only befriend girls that they are interested in dating and hope they get lucky one day.

I have more male friends now than ever. I think I'm too much woman for most of them, though.

sj, I would take something (I got them a lot when pregnant, so I still try Tylenol first out of habit, but there are better OTC medications), lie down in the dark, then have coffee before I came back into a lighted room. I would wear sunglasses around the house, if they hit when I had to do something (feed a baby, etc.) and couldn't lie down.

I tended to get the headache and sick feeling afterward, but the headaches were not unbearable.

Very few of the guys I know more than passingly ever make moves on me. Perhaps it's the unsparkle of my personality. Guys who are going to make moves, it seems, make them right up front, so I can deal with it as appropriate and move on in the applicable manner.

Which is nice...except that I never make moves on guys, so it kinda sucks to know I won't be rescued from my own cowardice/issues by someone I've known a while.

If you don't count friends garnered from b.org, or relatives, my friends are predominantly male. Face to face, it seems that's what sticks.

When I was younger, my friends were about a 50/50 m-f split. Now, they're mostly female, although most of them are married, and I consider their husbands friends too, so... I dunno why I thought I had something to contribute to this conversation.

I'm right with you, ita.

sj, I would take something (I got them a lot when pregnant, so I still try Tylenol first out of habit, but there are better OTC medications), lie down in the dark, then have coffee before I came back into a lighted room. I would wear sunglasses around the house, if they hit when I had to do something (feed a baby, etc.) and couldn't lie down.

Thanks, Cindy. If I can avoid the panic attack next time, I'll do that, but because of that I couldn't relax enough to lie down or be alone.

My statement was a bad reaction to this:

No offense to those of us who are with the ovaries and whatnot, but there was a VERY good reason most my friends in high school and college were guys.

It upsets me to see women make these kinds of disparaging remarks about other women. Still not a reason to make a disparaging remark about men, so I apologize.

I'm sorry, GC. I didn't mean to cause a bad reaction in you.

And no need to apologize for what has been your experience.

Thanks, Aims. While it pretty much has been my experience, I pulled it out specifically to show men in a bad light in reaction to a statement that (I felt) showed women in a bad light. So I truly am sorry that I did exactly what I was bothered by.