{{JZ}} I'm sorry this is such a hassle. Child care is crazy expensive. I'm glad to hear the HR lady is trying to find some solutions for you. Vibing for more paid time off and a perfect child care solution.

I took the boys to work with me until they were 2 and too active. At that time I did a lot of service work and training. I'd show up at the office that needed my services and announce that I was nursing and ask if they minded. Not a single time did anyone object. I worked in banks, law offices, medical offices. They all took it in stride. Amazing how cooperative people are when their software don't work.

(plus, not eligible for a CA State program that's supposed to allow for an additional 6 weeks of disability -- except that I'm a state university employee and my uni has severe and severely fucked budget restrictions).

The Paid Family Leave or the Pregnancy Disability Act?

I hate to be all mememe when so many buffistas are dealing with far more pressing issues right now, but I am starting to freak out about something. Mainly, getting a job. I don't know how I am going to afford the holidays without one, and if I want something in retail this is the time to be applying. The thing is, I really don't. Last year was very difficult for me physically and I am not sure if I can do it again. The problems with not doing retail are: 1. There is very little money I can make and not frell with my benifits. 2. I am extremely unqualified for anything else. I figured I should ask for some advice from the spicy brains here rather than sitting here worrying about it.

JZ, insent.

sj, is the holiday money for presents? If that is the case, perhaps a re-evaluation of that might take care of the issue on the other side? Like, perhaps do crazy cookie baking- I know one person who does INSANE holiday cookie stuff- these cookies are so amazing... different kinds, etc... and you could package them relatively inexpensively and give them as gifts?

My personal thing is, I would hate to think of someone I care about suffering to get me a freaking Christmas present. I'm pretty anti-Christmas present. The whole obligation aspect of it, that is.

Take it with a grain of salt, I'm pretty stupid with the Occasion gift giving thing- I am pretty much not a fan, either giving or recieving. This is only one of many reasons of why I suck. For me, food, beverage, and time spent together trumps pretty much any other thing that someone could buy for me, and this is why I have trouble getting stuff for other people who aren't wired freaky like me.

sj, is the holiday money for presents? If that is the case, perhaps a re-evaluation of that might take care of the issue on the other side? Like, perhaps do crazy cookie baking- I know one person who does INSANE holiday cookie stuff- these cookies are so amazing... different kinds, etc... and you could package them relatively inexpensively and give them as gifts?

It's partly presents, partly because I want extra money to pay down debt and add to savings, and partly because I really feel like I need to be doing something right now. Teacup Guy and I made a plan for presents and I am cutting way back by making gift baskets, which I can do cheaply and still make them look pretty. I don't feel I can/want to cut out presents entirely. Giving gifts is important to me, which I know is kind of crazy.

Some sort of clerical or receptionist work might be good. Maybe somewhere with puppies or interesting people or in a field you might like to work in one day.

Some sort of clerical or receptionist work might be good. Maybe somewhere with puppies or interesting people or in a field you might like to work in one day.

I have looked into this, but sadly most of them want too many hours and pay too much per hour for me to take them.

sj - have you tried checking with a temp agency about doing short term clerical assignments?

sj - have you tried checking with a temp agency about doing short term clerical assignments?

That's a good idea. I checked the temp agencies in RI a while back, but only wanted full time people. I haven't checked any temp agencies here yet.