[And I lied -- here I go, responding. No tears, though.]
Steph- he needs to know that his choices to stop various medications affects you. Your reactions are valid, and should be respected. Yes, people who care about each other take care of each other, but HE is equally responsible for taking care of YOU, by doing what he can to stay functional.
This may well not be the exact moment to have this discussion, but once he's back up and running, you do need to sit down with him and explain that these decisions affect you, and there is responsibility on his part to not make you the caretaker when situations occur that could have been prevented.
You are a wise, wise woman, my friend. This is true. Both the fact that his choices affect me, AND the fact that right this moment isn't the best time to tell him that. You're right, and I *will* have that discussion with him once everything is calm.
If he still continues to resist medications, then the communication of this will be much, much harder, but still important.
He's not resistant to meds, per se, but he gets frustrated when they don't help as much as he'd like, and that leads to jackassery like randomly discontinuing his meds. He's aware that the proper meds, in the proper doses, are incredibly helpful -- he just wants his shrink to find the right meds to BE helpful. And I totally get that. But still.
Can you mix ibuprofen and acetomiaphen?
Yup. Not, like, HANDFULS of each, though. But yeah. Sometimes the only thing that will work for my cramps is 4 ibuprofen and 1 (or even 1/2) of a leftover percocet, which is acetaminophen (plus yummy yummy narcotic).
He's not resistant to meds, per se, but he gets frustrated when they don't help as much as he'd like, and that leads to jackassery like randomly discontinuing his meds. He's aware that the proper meds, in the proper doses, are incredibly helpful -- he just wants his shrink to find the right meds to BE helpful. And I totally get that. But still.
All an aggrivating PITA -- but NOWHERE
NEAR
not taking you inhaler when you're having the asthma the doctor told you you have.
i.e. -- asking of you, sure, but likely not to the same 'embracing helplessness' degree that has you justifyably freaked
NOWHERE NEAR not taking you inhaler when you're having the asthma the doctor told you you have.
Ahahahahahahahaha!!!!
Very true. Thank you for reminding me of that.
All this medication talk has reminded me that I haven't taken anything for this headache yet today. Stupid me.
Oh, my. I MISS Percocet. Not as much as I miss Valium, but I'm missing my Perc right now (I fucked up my back this weekend). I only have Vicodin, and that makes me puke.
He's not resistant to meds, per se, but he gets frustrated when they don't help as much as he'd like, and that leads to jackassery like randomly discontinuing his meds. He's aware that the proper meds, in the proper doses, are incredibly helpful -- he just wants his shrink to find the right meds to BE helpful. And I totally get that. But still.
Yeah, it is hard and frustrating. We're dealing with that now. It's easier to be the support person WRT to commiserating that it's a PITA process, than be the caretaker when there's a chemical breakdown, that's for sure.
It's hard. And then there are all the issues with side effects... what is acceptable to be more brain-functional and what is not? (rhetorical question... also more in the meme perspective, as TW and I just had a discussion regarding this stuff last night)
But he cares about you, and I think all he needs is the awareness of the impact on you, and he will respect that.
I spent about 5 full minutes on the couch just muttering over and over, "I can't DO this. I CANNOT fucking DO this."
Steph, I have had moments of doing exactly this, more than once in trying to care for S. I know exactly how you felt in this moment.
It's okay. We're just human.
Matilda's got her A's hat on, I've got the boppy and we're gonna watch the A's play the Twins.
Want picture of Hec and baby.
I'm stuck at work with no radio reception and will be following gameday.
