Spike's Bitches 32: I think I'm sobering up.
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risque (and frisque), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
Where's my "what scrappy said" shirt? I'm a traditionalist.
He's not me, he deosn't think the way I think, he does things I would never do.
Anyone else have the "which route do you take and why don't you go my way which is obviously infinitely more better?" arguement?
You're angry and hurt. Easy to take things the wrong way.
I took both things both ways in subsequent rereadings. If hurt and angry color things from way back, they make the present just so hazed...
Hope the hand feels better in the morning, beth.
One thing it took us a long time to work out was the way we approach tasks. He really likes to finish before he moves on to the next thing. This means if he is downloading photos to the computer, he doesn't want to stop and eat dinner until he finishes, and if there is a glitch and it takes a longer time than he expected, he would rather wait and eat dinner two hours later than usual. Where I will stop and go eat and figure I'll finish later. My way is CLEARLY the sensible and right way to do things, but for some reason he thinks I am disorganized and unfocused. Luckily for our mental health, we usually work around these styles. Sometimes it takes a bit of negotiation, though.
The no girls thing will continue to bother me. Because that's kinda the thing. I didn't think me not excluding him from time with our friends because he's a boy was a me thing- I really didn't think it was the kind of thing he'd do. He's the kind of guy who'd roll his belt into a neat little ball and then just shove it anywhere, or pick up any old trash from the side of the road or garage sales and even though we've never used the juicer or the dehydrator and the chair doesn't fit and gets thrown away a month later, he continues to do it. I don't get any of that, but it's fine. I really thought better of him on this one though.
I'm bored in a theatre technical rehearsal. And in a bit of pain. Therefore? Haiku time!
O, my aching back.
Something's seriously fuck'd.
Want some flexeril!
Hopefully soon there will be a chiropractor in my life.
"Because he's not me." That's all. He's not me, he deosn't think the way I think, he does things I would never do. It's a wonderful, exciting thing and it cam also be maddening.I work hard to let him be him and expect him to do the same for me.
This is perfect. I clearly need one of those Scrappy t-shirts too!
It's been my experience that asking "why" in relation to someone else's behavior is a lost cause. Not only because we can never really figure out what is going on in someone else's heart/mind (not even those of us paid to do so) but because, often, they don't know either!
And even worse, if we could know exactly why someone does something, the answer doesn't really change the impact.
My way is CLEARLY the sensible and right way to do things
Take too oldest children
both who think that way
take many years of to realize that how one does the laundry - will not change the fate of the world. really . and where it does - well, he cleans the kitchen and I clean the bathroom.
really getting off the computer now
This
Anyone else have the "which route do you take and why don't you go my way which is obviously infinitely more better?" arguement?
Has now become this
Me:
starts to open mouth, thinks better of it
Him: I know, I don't know why I always go this way.
Much faster.
actually - I just do the whole arguement
I don't know why you are going this way, it is the harder way. ,I would do it different. you just felt like it and Im not driving so I'll be quiet now
Me: starts to open mouth, thinks better of it
Him: I know, I don't know why I always go this way.
Much faster.
Such a healthy sign.
Seriously though, which would you think is easier? Heading south, then west or east then north then south then west. IT MAKES NOT WITH THE SENSE MAKING!
