We also, despite the more-than-occasional instance in fic, don't have any evidence that John was an alcoholic. Sam makes two snotty remarks about "Jack, Jim, and Jose" in season 1, to which Dean never replies. We don't know if it's because Dean knows it's true, or if it's an argument he's tired of, or if Sam's fixated on a couple of instances he saw when he was younger that he turned into a trend, the way kids can.

Yeah, the grey canon of his journal has him drinking heavily right after Mary's death, but also stopping that soon after he learns he's not actually going nuts, that he saw what he thought he saw.

I suspect John could, and sometimes did, drink to excess, but not often, and not while working.

The other theory I've seen is that it was Sam's cover story about his father with Jess.

By all rights Sam and Dean should have turned out as at best, socially retarded and at worst borderline sociopaths. The fact that they didn't has almost everything to do with John.

Well, Dean kind of is socially backwards, but I'm not sure how much of that can be laid at John's doorstep, and how much of that is just Dean's essential personality + the trauma of Mary's death.

Which is not to say that I think he was always kind to the boys, and I do want to slap him in "Home" and "Faith" for not (apparently) doing something. But he's desperate at that point--he knows it's a demon by then, and demons are something they don't really know how to deal with, and he also knows something about the special children, so he knows Sam is at risk.

Yeah, this. And the same goes for In My Time of Dying, and his request of Dean.

Which was horrible, awful, and he knew it.

But weighing his options, I can see where he felt he had no other choice.

socially backwards

Yeah, but he can hold a conversation. He's not good at emotional connections with people outside his family, but he's got empathy for the victims (particularly children). He understands how people think, and he does (occasionally) reach out.

I have to admit that I honestly want a love story for Dean at some point. I want to see that happen. What would it take?

Yeah, but he can hold a conversation. He's not good at emotional connections with people outside his family, but he's got empathy for the victims (particularly children). He understands how people think, and he does (occasionally) reach out.

He's not good with social chit-chat, or dealing with "normal" adults on "normal" adult terms. It's not that he lacks empathy, just that he's lacking in people/social skills.

I had the epiphany during the Flail Weekend that Dean is not unlike Jeff from Coupling, just not played for laughs.

I have to admit that I honestly want a love story for Dean at some point. I want to see that happen. What would it take?

A third season? I hope?

One can hope.

You know that poll they're running on E Online (I think?)--the one that's being pimped so severely? I feel vaguely guilty, because I voted for FNL over SPN. I just feel like it's more of a crime to not get a second season of FNL than to not get a third season of SPN.

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Consuela hit the John that I see in my head.

I suspect John could, and sometimes did, drink to excess, but not often, and not while working.

Going through that crap every day, I could see hitting the bottle every once in a while.

socially backwards

I just think that Dean doesn't have a good grasp of what "normal" is. As in, the standard of average which Dean's life is not. Dean is the dutiful son, the mini!John, being the surrogate father (or mother?) to Sam, but Sam was the one who was a bit of an outsider. He barely remembers his mother, and always felt removed from the Family Business. He left for Stanford and spent 4 or so years studying people (and he's a smart one, that Sam) and learning how to play normal. Hell, maybe he even became a little normal, until the YED killed Jess. Dean's got his suave, his sarcasm, his natural charm, but he can't play normal like Sam can.

You know, if they'd just put more normal conversation into movies and on tv, Dean could totally replicate it (to whatever degree it's supported in canon, my Dean totally watched/s a LOT of hotel-room cable). He's been demonstrated to be able to play whatever professional part fairly well, hasn't he? (I've not seen all of S1, I think)

He's been good at cops and others on the right side of the law, not so much on the softer gigs (priest? art dealer? grief counselor? riiiiight).

Which is not to say that I think he was always kind to the boys, and I do want to slap him in "Home" and "Faith" for not (apparently) doing something. But he's desperate at that point--he knows it's a demon by then, and demons are something they don't really know how to deal with, and he also knows something about the special children, so he knows Sam is at risk. He cannot risk drawing its attention to them.

Consuela, I'm assuming you're referring to John not actually physically getting involved in their situations at that point. Which I could almost accept, if he weren't sitting in Missouri's living room in Lawrence during "Home." That's close enough to the boys for the demons, I would think. And it still doesn't explain why he can make all those officious phone calls and send text messages sending them to haunted apple orchards and asylums to rescue strangers, but can't spare 60 seconds to ask how his own sons are doing. If phone calls and text messages are safe (i.e., won't leave a trail leading the YED to Sam/Dean) then dammit, Pick Up the Phone and call them!.

In "Salvation" when John pulls his truck off the road and shows how upset he is that Pastor Jim has been killed, and then later shows how upset he is that Caleb has been killed, I was thinking, yeah, but where was all this emotion when your own son was dying? Yes, I have John issues. I hurt on behalf of the boys.

Ok, so.... someone needs to take Simon Says away from me. Because I've watched Dean sing Speedwagon about ten times in the last ten minutes, and my poor fangirl brain canna take it.