End it as soon as possible.
E-mail is being composed as we speak. And I'll probably call her tonight, too, though I really, really hate the thought of combining my consuming fear of the telephone with my consuming fear of making people sad.
Harmony: Somebody remembered to pick me up the sweetest unicorn. Guess someone was feeling guilty for standing me up in tenth grade. Brad: What? Had to get her something. She sired me. Peaches: Sire-whipped.
'Beneath You'
Spike's Bitches 31: We're Motivated Go-getters.
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Gris - Aug 16, 2006 5:47:15 am PDT #8862 of 10001
Hey. New board.
Lee - Aug 16, 2006 5:50:28 am PDT #8863 of 10001
The feeling you get when your brain finally lets your heart get in its pants.
No email. In person.
Gris - Aug 16, 2006 5:56:13 am PDT #8864 of 10001
Hey. New board.
I just read over my original post, and I didn't quite make it clear that I really still thought there was potential there all the way up until this morning. At least, I think I thought so. In fact, the I'm-going-to-have-to-end-this-for-sure moment didn't actually occur until we went to buy coffee and cigarettes, right before I left. And, though I did mention the possibility of a second date at dinner, I didn't otherwise encourage future thoughts. I just didn't outright discourage them, either.
Anyway, thanks for the support. I totally get those guys that would become the "He's just not that into you" mixed message guy at this point. So much easier. So much eviller.
Vortex - Aug 16, 2006 5:56:26 am PDT #8865 of 10001
"Cry havoc and let slip the boobs of war!" -- Miracleman
Gris, I've been on her end more times than I care to think about and it would have been much easier if he had just said "hey, got caught up in the moment, but I really don't think this is going anywhere.
No email. In person.
Generally, I'd agree, but
I really, really hate the thought of combining my consuming fear of the telephone with my consuming fear of making people sad.
so maybe it would be better to send an email. Maybe with a caveat "Sending an email is crappy, but I really hate to upset people, and I've found myself getting into situations that just got worse because I didn't want to upset someone, and i don't want to do that to you. You're a great person, but just not the person for me." And then, call her after a few days.
SuziQ - Aug 16, 2006 5:58:25 am PDT #8866 of 10001
Back tattoos of the mother is that you are absolutely right - Ame
Vortex is wise (duh), plus you got to know her online first, so that was your first line of communication.
lisah - Aug 16, 2006 5:59:27 am PDT #8867 of 10001
Punishingly Intricate
No email. In person.
Dude! You should have just left her a post-it note this morning. Or...yes, in person is best. And you don't have to have a long explanation, just that you aren't interested in dating her. It sucks to make people sad but it's way better than making them confused and hurt and angry.
Gris - Aug 16, 2006 6:00:17 am PDT #8868 of 10001
Hey. New board.
No email. In person.
I know this is true, but like Vortex says, I'm pretty sure that if I decide to wait until I can call her (she's at work all day) then I'll wuss out. I have serious phone fear. I need to do SOME sort of committed move NOW that can't be taken back, or I'm afraid things will get worse.
Cashmere - Aug 16, 2006 6:00:46 am PDT #8869 of 10001
Now tagless for your comfort.
We're being invaded by snot monsters. This can't be good.
Vortex - Aug 16, 2006 6:02:00 am PDT #8870 of 10001
"Cry havoc and let slip the boobs of war!" -- Miracleman
As long as you follow up with a phone call, I think it's fine.
Lee - Aug 16, 2006 6:03:58 am PDT #8871 of 10001
The feeling you get when your brain finally lets your heart get in its pants.
Sorry-- should have said "No email or phone", since I don't count the phone as in person either, and Vortex definitely has a good point about the phone fear issue. If you think that would still carry over to in person discussion ( eta or feel you shouldn't wait -- I got delayed in posting), then email is the best bet, but I still think face to face is generally better.