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Spike's Bitches 31: We're Motivated Go-getters.  

[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risque (and frisque), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.


Vortex - Aug 16, 2006 5:56:26 am PDT #8865 of 10001
"Cry havoc and let slip the boobs of war!" -- Miracleman

Gris, I've been on her end more times than I care to think about and it would have been much easier if he had just said "hey, got caught up in the moment, but I really don't think this is going anywhere.

No email. In person.

Generally, I'd agree, but

I really, really hate the thought of combining my consuming fear of the telephone with my consuming fear of making people sad.

so maybe it would be better to send an email. Maybe with a caveat "Sending an email is crappy, but I really hate to upset people, and I've found myself getting into situations that just got worse because I didn't want to upset someone, and i don't want to do that to you. You're a great person, but just not the person for me." And then, call her after a few days.


SuziQ - Aug 16, 2006 5:58:25 am PDT #8866 of 10001
Back tattoos of the mother is that you are absolutely right - Ame

Vortex is wise (duh), plus you got to know her online first, so that was your first line of communication.


lisah - Aug 16, 2006 5:59:27 am PDT #8867 of 10001
Punishingly Intricate

No email. In person.

Dude! You should have just left her a post-it note this morning. Or...yes, in person is best. And you don't have to have a long explanation, just that you aren't interested in dating her. It sucks to make people sad but it's way better than making them confused and hurt and angry.


Gris - Aug 16, 2006 6:00:17 am PDT #8868 of 10001
Hey. New board.

No email. In person.

I know this is true, but like Vortex says, I'm pretty sure that if I decide to wait until I can call her (she's at work all day) then I'll wuss out. I have serious phone fear. I need to do SOME sort of committed move NOW that can't be taken back, or I'm afraid things will get worse.


Cashmere - Aug 16, 2006 6:00:46 am PDT #8869 of 10001
Now tagless for your comfort.

We're being invaded by snot monsters. This can't be good.


Vortex - Aug 16, 2006 6:02:00 am PDT #8870 of 10001
"Cry havoc and let slip the boobs of war!" -- Miracleman

As long as you follow up with a phone call, I think it's fine.


Lee - Aug 16, 2006 6:03:58 am PDT #8871 of 10001
The feeling you get when your brain finally lets your heart get in its pants.

Sorry-- should have said "No email or phone", since I don't count the phone as in person either, and Vortex definitely has a good point about the phone fear issue. If you think that would still carry over to in person discussion ( eta or feel you shouldn't wait -- I got delayed in posting), then email is the best bet, but I still think face to face is generally better.


Nora Deirdre - Aug 16, 2006 6:08:42 am PDT #8872 of 10001
I’m responsible for my own happiness? I can’t even be responsible for my own breakfast! (Bojack Horseman)

I don't know, I think at this stage in the game I'd rather be emailed, because damn, I would hate being on the receiving end of that conversation, and I'd run a giant chance of crying and hating myself and whatnot. Email is kind of cold, but, whatever, I can forward the email to my friends and mock the dude forever. Or until I feel better. I don't think F2F is required. Follow up is OK, I personally would shun it if attempted. But life goes on. Good to know sooner rather than later.


Sparky1 - Aug 16, 2006 6:08:43 am PDT #8873 of 10001
Librarian Warlord

Gris, if email is the only way you have the conviction to do this a.s.a.p., then send the email.

I have to say, though, if I were the girl, I don't know if I'd want that followup phone call after the break-up email.


Aims - Aug 16, 2006 6:13:02 am PDT #8874 of 10001
Shit's all sorts of different now.

YAY RAQ!!!

HAPPY BIRTHDAY DEBET!!!

While I am kinda curious about how Emeline got her very own firetruck,

Em's new thing is "fire truck! fire truck!" whenever a big truck goes past our house or she sees one. Not always a fire truck, but if it's a big truck, it's a fire truck.

We have a gas station catty corner from us. They got a deliver of Bud Light yesterday around 4:00 and when the truck was leaving, he misjudged his angle and knocked over the fire hydrant. HUGE geyser of water for about an hour. After it was all over, the (very hawt) firemen were packing up their truck to go, and I asked if I could bring her over to see the truck. Naturally, they said yes and then said she could sit inside (I didn't even ask) but she was SO EXCITED. "Ooooh! Ooooh! FIRE TRUCK!!!"

She's so funny.