Congrats to Teacup Guy!
And to you and your new weekends with the bf.
And Suziq: your neighbor married her gay friend?
This here's a recipe for unpleasantness.
Mal ,'Objects In Space'
Spike's Bitches 31: We're Motivated Go-getters.
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risque (and frisque), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
sumi - Aug 11, 2006 7:34:13 am PDT #8169 of 10001
Art Crawl!!!
Fred Pete - Aug 11, 2006 7:35:12 am PDT #8170 of 10001
Ann, that's a ferret.
If your kids want to go, let them give support to their kids. I assume they're old enough not to need a lesson on those social graces that involve a certain amount of dissembling, but you know that better than I.
As for yourself, I'm of the "I promised to go, so I can't back out without giving a very good reason" school. Which doesn't preclude making up good reasons when necessary. In this case, I'd suggest going to (1) support their kids, (2) set a good example for your kids, (3) have good stories to tell for our amusement on Monday morning.
Vortex - Aug 11, 2006 7:35:53 am PDT #8171 of 10001
"Cry havoc and let slip the boobs of war!" -- Miracleman
Suzi, I'd say go with an open mind. But, have a backup planned. Have DH call you 1/2 hour after you arrive. Enough time to assess the sitch, say hello and be seen. Then, you can just say, oh, got to leave, home emergency.
Fred Pete - Aug 11, 2006 7:36:19 am PDT #8172 of 10001
Ann, that's a ferret.
Congrats, sj and Mr. Teacup!
SuziQ - Aug 11, 2006 7:39:14 am PDT #8173 of 10001
Back tattoos of the mother is that you are absolutely right - Ame
Y'all are wise. I'm over thinking the whole thing. As I mentioned, they are neighbors, so it is easy to "pop in" and then leave. It is an open house - so there is no hard start/end time I have to be there for.
I want to have an open mind about the whole thing. Just the closer this event gets, the more funky I feel about it. I know I'm projecting some of my issues onto their situation and I need to stop that.
Sparky1 - Aug 11, 2006 7:44:02 am PDT #8174 of 10001
Librarian Warlord
Rah! Rah! Teacup Guy!
Vortex is wise, Suzi.
beekaytee - Aug 11, 2006 7:44:26 am PDT #8175 of 10001
Compassionately intolerant
This is my freak-out with every new job
I can't recommend highly enough, nabbing a copy of Emily Koltnow's book 'Congratulations, You've been fired.' [link] when negotiating into or out of a gig.
The book is out of print, which means you can pick it up, for wicked cheap, on amazon.
It features a fairly comprehensive list of things you can ask for and how to ask for them. Emily is pretty old-school, and the book is geared toward women, but it really is useful both emotionally and practically, for just about anyone getting a new job or leaving an old one.
SailAweigh - Aug 11, 2006 7:49:33 am PDT #8176 of 10001
Nana korobi, ya oki. (Fall down seven times, stand up eight.) ~Yuzuru Hanyu/Japanese proverb
Congratulations to teacup guy, sj! Time to partay!
Cash, that does sound like an awkward place to be in. I don't do that kind of work, so I'd say that Vortex definitely has the inside track on how to handle it. I'll keep vibing job~ma your way so that you both get paid in a timely manner and, most of all, get the job.
As for negotiating salaries? I suck. Only once have I gotten what I wanted and that was by sheer luck. I was worth it, but their ideas of why they thought I was and my ideas of why were two totally different ideas. When I left that position, the person that took it after me had to take a $4 an hour paycut.
Lee - Aug 11, 2006 7:50:04 am PDT #8177 of 10001
The feeling you get when your brain finally lets your heart get in its pants.
YAY Teacup Guy!
Frankenbuddha - Aug 11, 2006 7:54:10 am PDT #8178 of 10001
"We are the Goon Squad and we're coming to town...Beep! Beep!" - David Bowie, "Fashion"
Yay and congrats to sj and TG!!