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You can't be on the Internet, and you can't socialize in person with girls...have they proposed options for what you *can* do?
I get the impression that all my time must be spent A) interacting with family in the vicinity, B) meeting and greeting extended family who happen to visit, and C) finding male Indian friends.
Oh, I'm also not supposed to read books all the time.
With that, I go to bed.
Oh, I'm also not supposed to read books all the time.
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Oh, the HELL with that. That sound you just heard? It was the camel's back breaking. I mean, yes, my mother had to physically remove my book from me to prevent me from reading through my cousin's wedding when I was 15, so I'm not exactly without a bias here, but...the HELL with that.
They have no clue how lucky they are. My God. What, they'd rather you were in a less intellectual, more testosterone-fuelled frame of mind?
What. Ever.
I am trying very hard not to call them CRAZYHEADS, but without much success. I hereby declare it mandatory that you move immediately if not sooner, because a household that thinks you should read less is a crazy household.
(You need to watch Goodness Gracious Me, though. I think you would enjoy it.)
I recently read a book called "A General Theory of Love" (it's about neurophysiology) which in some part explains why arranged marriages work (because they do have a better success rate than love marriages)
Long ago, I read something (can't even remember what) saying they work better...in cultures that practice and support them. I think the discussion was along the lines of: It's good, or even better, if you're in a place where arranged marriage is the expectation, but it is a really difficult thing for people who have been raised in the West, and are assimilated into Western culture. I might have even read this in my Sociology of Marriage and Family course, in college.
Well, that seems logical enough.
Yeah, you're right. My mom does acknowledge the fact that I'm quiet...she just doesn't like it. It means I think I'm better than everyone.
If it helps, remind yourself that what it actually means is that it makes them feel inadequate - same with the books and computer, I'd guess. They don't understand it, so it makes them feel like you're choosing something else over them. People are scared of what they don't understand, and it makes them defensive, and it's much easier to just turn that around and make it about you. But it's really not.
I used to get the stuff about reading too much too - but only from my mother. My dad encouraged the reading. My mother told me the reason I needed glasses was because I read so much, with the subtext that boys would never like me because I wore glasses and read books.
I can't even imagine what my mom's reaction would've been to my various non-white boyfriends. Actually, I strongly suspect I never would have dated had she stayed in my life.
So, yeah, parents freaky.
OTOH, Mallory just rotated his pacifier in his mouth, like an airplane propellor, using only his tongue. That's going to make him popular someday.
Someone kick my ass into gear. Must get ready for the graduation party.
Gently nudges vw to get moving.
P-C, I still have no advice for you, except that giving therapy another try is probably a good idea. One bad therapist shouldn't discourage you from that. Take care.
OTOH, Mallory just rotated his pacifier in his mouth, like an airplane propellor, using only his tongue. That's going to make him popular someday.
Wow. ALL the Buffista girlbabies will be fighting over him in 17 years or so.
Oh, God. And now I need to go and scrub out the inside of my head. Thanks for that, Raq.
oh, P-C. Family stuff is so hard, regardless of cultural background. I hope you are able to come to some clarity to what appropriate boundaries are for you and your family. It always seems easier to go woth the flow, but setting healthy boundaries, though difficult, works out better in the long run, for all. You'll figure it out. I have faith.
{{askye}} Losing stuff SUCKS so much. argh.
I think we are going to try to fit a trip to IKEA in before the graduation party today!