Well, that seems logical enough.

Yeah, you're right. My mom does acknowledge the fact that I'm quiet...she just doesn't like it. It means I think I'm better than everyone.

If it helps, remind yourself that what it actually means is that it makes them feel inadequate - same with the books and computer, I'd guess. They don't understand it, so it makes them feel like you're choosing something else over them. People are scared of what they don't understand, and it makes them defensive, and it's much easier to just turn that around and make it about you. But it's really not.

I used to get the stuff about reading too much too - but only from my mother. My dad encouraged the reading. My mother told me the reason I needed glasses was because I read so much, with the subtext that boys would never like me because I wore glasses and read books.

I can't even imagine what my mom's reaction would've been to my various non-white boyfriends. Actually, I strongly suspect I never would have dated had she stayed in my life.

So, yeah, parents freaky.

OTOH, Mallory just rotated his pacifier in his mouth, like an airplane propellor, using only his tongue. That's going to make him popular someday.

Someone kick my ass into gear. Must get ready for the graduation party.

Gently nudges vw to get moving.

P-C, I still have no advice for you, except that giving therapy another try is probably a good idea. One bad therapist shouldn't discourage you from that. Take care.

OTOH, Mallory just rotated his pacifier in his mouth, like an airplane propellor, using only his tongue. That's going to make him popular someday.

Wow. ALL the Buffista girlbabies will be fighting over him in 17 years or so.

Oh, God. And now I need to go and scrub out the inside of my head. Thanks for that, Raq.

oh, P-C. Family stuff is so hard, regardless of cultural background. I hope you are able to come to some clarity to what appropriate boundaries are for you and your family. It always seems easier to go woth the flow, but setting healthy boundaries, though difficult, works out better in the long run, for all. You'll figure it out. I have faith.

{{askye}} Losing stuff SUCKS so much. argh.

I think we are going to try to fit a trip to IKEA in before the graduation party today!

OTOH, Mallory just rotated his pacifier in his mouth, like an airplane propellor, using only his tongue. That's going to make him popular someday.

I love Buffistas.

OTOH, Mallory just rotated his pacifier in his mouth, like an airplane propellor, using only his tongue. That's going to make him popular someday.

Ahahahahahaha!!!

My theory on this "success rate" is that the stigma for divorce is even higher in cultures with arranged marriages

I imagine the expecations are different as well. So many divorces seem based on "we're different people, we just don't love each other anymore" and in an arranged marriage that second one is just not a factor.

one point this book made is that people, if left to their own devices, tend to pick partners that match their expectations of what a love relationship is, and often those are fucked-up expectations. Like, "people I love always criticize me" or "people I love always hit me" or similar.

That is VERY interesting.

Wow. ALL the Buffista girlbabies will be fighting over him in 17 years or so.

Sure, but ita has swords and stuff.