....I feel I should qualify that the pirate version of Howl's Moving Castle doesn't actually feature pirates, as such. I'm assuming. Just big Arabic subtitles.

Fay, I would snuggle with you. I could so VERY use a real hug, which is why the bracket-y version would make me lose my shit totally. They're no substitute and would only serve to make me more cross.

*(The ADD ---> neglecting stuff is NOT me making excuses for him, and he doesn't use it as an excuse, in the sense of "Oh well, nothing I can do about it; that's just the way I am." He's very aware of it, and -- I don't know enough about ADD, but it's a brain chemistry thing just like depression, and it's a real issue, not just a handy excuse for laziness.)

The big thing with ADD is the short term memory sucks. Most normal people can keep 5-6 tasks in mind. Most ADD folks are lucky if they can keep 2 in mind. Anytime you ask them to do something, give them 1-2 steps, then when they're done, give them 1-2 more. It helps keep them on task, it's not nagging and stuff gets done. Unfortunately for the folks that live alone, there's no one to keep them on task and things just fall by the wayside because they're trying to do too much at once. My daughter's therapist recommended breaking the day into 15 minutes increments and listing each thing that needed to be done in a block. Then, adjusting how many blocks of time she may need for any particular task once she'd run through it a couple of times. As long as she stuck to it, it worked pretty well for her, she got a lot more done on a daily basis.

....I feel I should qualify that the pirate version of Howl's Moving Castle doesn't actually feature pirates, as such. I'm assuming. Just big Arabic subtitles.

Yeah, but it does feature Christian Bale's voice as the most petulent glam rock gothboy wizard who cries over his bad hair coloring and wears fabulous earrings.

My daughter's therapist recommended breaking the day into 15 minutes increments and listing each thing that needed to be done in a block. Then, adjusting how many blocks of time she may need for any particular task once she'd run through it a couple of times. As long as she stuck to it, it worked pretty well for her, she got a lot more done on a daily basis.

The Boy does this, but he's bad at adhering to it. If I come over and glare at him (no, seriously; he'll call me and ask "Can you come over and give me the Stern Glare?"), then he gets shit done.

But I don't want to be the taskmaster, you know? I want to be the....I don't know, just the loveable huggable Tep.

just the loveable huggable Tep.

You can be the loveable huggable Tep with an occasional Stern Glare.

But I don't want to be the taskmaster, you know? I want to be the....I don't know, just the loveable huggable Tep.

Would it be more fun if you brought a riding crop? And wore the big boots?

Tep, I love hearing about your Boy and his carrots and your Stern Glare of Doom.

Bless.

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...that somehow came out patronising, I think, maybe. Or it looked it when it was in black and white. And what I meant was just Yay, with a small side order of wist. In case that wasn't clear. And, yeah, did I but have a portable Stargate keyed in to the Buffistas' residences, I'd be stepping through a shiny event horizon and giving you a hug RIGHT NOW. Or I would if I were more demonstrative and less tentative about huggage. I think I'm more of a huggee than a hugger.

looks around empty flat sadly.

Jesus. I'm really starting to depress myself. It must be because my hormones are out of whack.

Teppy - insent.

But I don't want to be the taskmaster, you know? I want to be the....I don't know, just the loveable huggable Tep.

Would it be more fun if you brought a riding crop?

Already taken care of, believe me.

...that somehow came out patronising, I think, maybe.

Not even one tiny bit. Seriously.