Just that if your picker is off and you're seeking excitement, it's more likely from a bad boy you want to make palatable than injecting fun into a too-nice guy.

If your picker is off and you're seeking stability, though, you're going to be finding the too-nice guy and trying to make him more fun or interesting or whatever. It's just a different kind of "off."

you're going to be finding the too-nice guy and trying to make him more fun or interesting or whatever

See, I've never seen that. Which is why I ask. All the fixing women I've seen have been trying to quiet a guy down.

It's just a different kind of "off."

Right, either one is actually a dud.

you're going to be finding the too-nice guy and trying to make him more fun or interesting or whatever

I would guess this more often plays out as finding the too-nice guy and convincing yourself the fun and interesting doesn't matter.

Huh. Wish I had known all this when I was in college....

I htink the other side of the coin is dating a too nice guy and trying to make one feel love for him because it "should" work.

Oh, I've seen it. It's the women I know who feel like it's Time To Settle Down, and who doesn't want to settle down with a Nice Guy? Well, some of them, it turns out. Of course they want to settle down with a nice, good, guy, but not one for whom Nice is the definining characteristic.

I would guess this more often plays out as finding the too-nice guy and convincing yourself the fun and interesting doesn't matter.

That jibes with what I've seen. And then seeking the fun and interest elsewhere, if they can't convince themselves they don't need it.

Wish I had known all this when I was in college....

What would you have done differently?

See, I've never seen that. Which is why I ask. All the fixing women I've seen have been trying to quiet a guy down.

They're just better daughters than your and aimee. They exist.