I've told this story before I think.

I was playing with a friends four year old after church.

Gillian: Trudy, when are you going to get married?

Now, said child had just been a flower girl two or three times and was likely looking for another gig. Her parents, however, are a mite old-fashioned so I thought I'd take this opportunity as a teachable moment.

Trudy: Not everybody GETS married.

Gillian: Really?

T: Nope, not everybody gets married. But I think one day I might like to get married.

G: Good. So who are you going to marry?

T: Well, that's a big decision. If I marry someone that means I want to spend the rest of my life with him. That's a lot of time. I guess if I got married he would have to be very very... [brain scrambling here, what do I SAY to a four year old about this particular topic]... nice.

G: [face lighting up like Christmas] I know somebody nice!

[Now I am a little terrified. Nice is all well and good, but he just has to be old to Gillian. This 'nice' guy could be anywhere between fifteen and eighty. I am pausing in terror. Fortunately she's had another thought. But its a sad thought. And she wilts in that way little kids do when they're disappointed.]

G: No... but he's boring. [in all wisom and earnestness] Nice, but NOT boring.

Broadly speaking, I'm not sure that women "like bad guys" so much as they want a little excitement. And if a guy is dull as dust I don't care how nice he is. Nice but not boring. They exist, they're just sorta rare.

Monkeys: [link]

A friend and I have recently coined the term "jackass-coated sweetheart." I think it maybe applies here?

Whoa! Scotter Libby files papers that say that Bush ordered the intelligence leak.

Treason much?

Hee. Monkeys with phones!

Huh. Haven't read the linked article yet, but I had heard rumors that Bush was mad at Rove for the leak....

eta: Upon reading the article - it says that Bush made no specific mention of leaking Plame's identity....

Merriam-Webster on your iPod.

I'm not sure that women "like bad guys" so much as they want a little excitement.

I'm not trying to talk about women in general, nor imply that all men are too-nice or too-bad. Just that if your picker is off and you're seeking excitement, it's more likely from a bad boy you want to make palatable than injecting fun into a too-nice guy.

Just that if your picker is off and you're seeking excitement, it's more likely from a bad boy you want to make palatable than injecting fun into a too-nice guy.

If your picker is off and you're seeking stability, though, you're going to be finding the too-nice guy and trying to make him more fun or interesting or whatever. It's just a different kind of "off."

you're going to be finding the too-nice guy and trying to make him more fun or interesting or whatever

See, I've never seen that. Which is why I ask. All the fixing women I've seen have been trying to quiet a guy down.