I'm so sorry, MG. No wonder you were so upset. I wish there was a magic formula that would keep teenagers from screwing up their lives.
Slap my hand now!
Anya ,'Empty Places'
Spike's Bitches 29: That sure as hell wasn't in the brochure.
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Ginger - Mar 07, 2006 6:32:33 am PST #2668 of 10001
"It didn't taste good. It tasted soooo horrible. It tasted like....a vodka martini." - Matilda
Trudy Booth - Mar 07, 2006 6:34:44 am PST #2669 of 10001
Greece's financial crisis threatens to take down all of Western civilization - a civilization they themselves founded. A rather tragic irony - which is something they also invented. - Jon Stewart
Maidengurl, K-Bug faced this the way she did because you have raised her well. You are a good Mom and the proof is in the pudding -- not that she's perfect but that she can be responsible for dealing with a fuck-up.
C, on the other hand, is apparently not capable of that and it is no mystery why she would bolt rather than deal since that's what she was taught. You can love her and love her, but the time came for her to use a tool she doesn't have and your good parenting hasn't had time to make up the difference.
Try not to feel used, ok? (You'll feel what you feel and of course it is all valid, I'm not trying to negate what you feel.) You did your best to help someone and she truly may have done her best to BE helped. I doubt she was malicious or mercenary in intent. The kid is broken. It may be broken that can't be fixed by you OR her.
You will all be in my prayers.
Amy - Mar 07, 2006 6:35:59 am PST #2670 of 10001
Because books.
I'm so sorry, MG. What a hard decision to make. I'm willing to bet that C will take all the love and support you've shown her, and use it to make better decisions later on. You did so much for her. {{{MG}}}
vw bug - Mar 07, 2006 6:36:09 am PST #2671 of 10001
Mostly lurking...
MG, I offered you thoughts in LJ too, but ugh. Just ugh. Many hugs and all that. I hope you're able to start sleeping again soon.
And in my whiney news, I am in a great deal of pain. I want to go home, but there really isn't any point. I'll just be in pain there too...and I have two doctors' appointments this afternoon, so it's not like I'd be able to stay at home. But, at any rate, I'm having a very difficult time sticking this out.
SuziQ - Mar 07, 2006 6:42:31 am PST #2672 of 10001
Back tattoos of the mother is that you are absolutely right - Ame
Thanks all. And thanks Trudy.
I'm trying hard not to get petty, which is where my brain is trying to go right now. I've turned off her phone aleady and DH has started taping up some boxes for her. She has not spent the last two nights at our house and part of me wants to say she is not welcome to spend the rest of the week either.
juliana - Mar 07, 2006 6:44:41 am PST #2673 of 10001
I’d be lying if I didn’t say that I miss them all tonight…
{{{{MG}}}} Sorry, sweetie. i'm so sorry.
Lee - Mar 07, 2006 6:44:51 am PST #2674 of 10001
The feeling you get when your brain finally lets your heart get in its pants.
I am so sorry, MG. I wish there were a magic wand to make C realize how much she is giving up, but hopefully some of what you've given her will stick.
SuziQ - Mar 07, 2006 6:45:21 am PST #2675 of 10001
Back tattoos of the mother is that you are absolutely right - Ame
Well, juliana. The house will be much quieter, that is for sure.
§ ita § - Mar 07, 2006 6:47:06 am PST #2676 of 10001
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.
Don't dwell on "used," Maidengurl. Just because it's all going pear-shaped now doesn't mean that your love and support wasn't of value to C. Of course it hurts you terribly. But better she was cared for you by a little rather than not at all.
lisah - Mar 07, 2006 6:47:21 am PST #2677 of 10001
Punishingly Intricate
oh MG. I'm so sorry.