Waitress: I really liked the way they portrayed the husband: completely unlikeable, unsympathetic, and yet, pathetic. He wasn't evil; he was a spoiled little boy throwing tantrums. He wasn't a stock "Bad Husband" character. I liked his depiction because he never beat her. He got physically violent a couple times, but he never hurt her. It's an important distinction, to me, because so many women - and their friends and family - convince themselves that abuse isn't happening because no one's being beaten. Only physical abuse, physical hurt, "counts". I've heard it said: "Well, does he hit you? Has he hurt you? No? Well, then, it can't be that bad, can it? Maybe you need to be nicer to him." This movie, and the actors, did an excellent job of showing the damage caused by emotional abuse. I'm hoping it will show some people who need to get the idea what psychological abuse is.
Earl was indeed a realistic portrayal; take my word for it. That was basically my ex. I loved it when Jenna told him to get out, but I don't believe for a second that he would actually have left her alone. But Earl stalking Jenna would have skewed off into a very different movie, so I understand why they left it alone.
I also thought I would hate the affair aspect, but I didn't; I agree that it was about Jenna learning how to be loved, and in the end, his marriage made it easier for her to choose to leave him, to go and live her own life. It also made their love affair equitable: if she had been cheating and he had not, there would have been inequality between them.
Japanese ghost-story horror movies scare the living fuck out of me.
Oh, a friend of mine told me something about PotC3 that may be important (I haven't yet seen it): He said they cut out some important exposition about how if your love waits for you for ten years, you're free of the curse and become mortal again. Does that make sense in the context of the movie? He said it made a big difference in understanding what characters were doing, and that it was dumb to cut it out.