So his whole treating you like you're not an actual adult problem hasn't gone anywhere.

I started to type more details of the message, and it's making my eyes cross. Short version, no not adult yet, it seems.

he ought to get no leeway in trying to fix anything

Oh, but he's not trying to fix anything. He's already done the right thing, and eventually I'll accept that.

Ah, well. I have a call in to the head instructor. I'll prep him for the neurologist call. I want to plant some seeds ahead of time.

He's trying to repair a relationship, or whatever.

edited to not sound dismissive.

He's trying to repair a relationship, whatever.

Except for the part where he wasn't acting as a friend, he was using his semi-medical status and information he got during treatment without your permission.

Wanker.

Except for the part where he wasn't acting as a friend

HE doesn't think that, hence

Wanker.

Exactly.

He's trying to repair a relationship, or whatever.

No, he's not. He's willing to wait until I get over it. He's not trying to do shit.

OK, fair enough.

I'm sorry if my misunderstanding is making you crankier. I don't want to do that.

OK, I just flipped on PBS, and there was a landrover stuck in the sand. The voiceover said "and a clever bedouin trick got us free" as a visual of people stuffing weeds and twigs under the tires. Um, not to diss bedouins, but that's a basic automotive unsticking thing. If you don't know that...sheesh.

So my father's really actually retiring, has set a date and let the department know and everything, which I'm just finding... odd. I mean, great. But kind of odd. (Part of this may be from playing Sims 2 for the last several days, in which after you reach a certain age, you jump in the air, spin around, come down white-haired, saggy, and wearing frumpy clothes, and are then able to retire.) Also, weirded out by his talking about the experts at his retirement fund. It's like he's rich or something.

That oddity is in my future, as in the next decade or so. I just realized that my grandparents all were retired by his age. Different generation. I think the last my paternal grandfather worked was when he was 55. My maternal one, later, but that was just waiting for my uncle to take over the farm. I was born after they had retired.

Well, it's not clear that my mother will ever retire (mostly for lack of funds, though also academia's a different animal), so it's just... it's weird.