This is a complete outsider's perspective, Gud, but it's sounding like forgetting the chocolate was the straw that broke the camel's back, and from where I'm standing, that's too petty for words.

No, that was just a symptom.

Whatever your spouse's mental and emotional issues, she's clearly not present for you, or for the children in this marriage.

Not really true. She takes care of the kids all day when I'm at work, and works hard at homeschooling our daughter. (I still feel a bit uneasy about this, education-wise it's good, socialization is a concern for me though). She does stuff around the house too, although I think I probably do more overall. You're getting my side of the story, and she has some pretty real complaints too.

I'm not sure what I'm going to do. It's complicated and I don't know that I really want to go into the details of everything in the thread.

Aw! It happens, though.

She's fine now. Seeing all the blood on my sleeve kind of upset me, but she's fine now - sound asleep actually.

Oh, Gud. I'm so sorry. It's not for lack of trying on your part, though.

No, lack of trying is part of the problem. I've done a lot of taking care of kids, helping her in her projects, trying to keep up on the house, but not so good in the romance department. I don't think my heart was in it or has been for awhile.

Gud, I'm so sorry. I can't tell if this is a dark bad day or the final straw -- freakin' board is so limited in this way.

Regardless, you'll find your best way through this. You know you will and we'll just keep reminding you.

No, lack of trying is part of the problem. I've done a lot of taking care of kids, helping her in her projects, trying to keep up on the house, but not so good in the romance department. I don't think my heart was in it or has been for awhile.

Curse you! Being a human being!

You're more than trying. Succeeding is trickier -- and it takes two. (And if you'd quit beating up on our friend the mighty couch-flipper we'd all appreciate it very much. Ta ever so.)

No, lack of trying is part of the problem.

I'm sorry, Gud. You're right about getting only one side of the story, but it's hard to understand that -- the kind of father you are, the work you put into the house and into the "team" aspect of family life, is really wonderful. If the problem is, deep down, that you're not in love anymore, then you have to address that. But I still hate to think of you believing yourself to be a bad person or a failure.

Whatever you need, just yell. And *do* try to take care of yourself through this. It's important.

{{{{{Gud}}}}}

I got nothing else, just love and support. For what that's worth. Banana?

(I try to feed people to take care of them, but all I have are bland foods right now. So, banana?)

No, lack of trying is part of the problem. I've done a lot of taking care of kids, helping her in her projects, trying to keep up on the house, but not so good in the romance department.

I don't mean to be unfair to your wife, but how hard has *she* been trying in the romance department? "It takes two" is a cliche for a reason.

Oh, Gud, I'm so sorry. Here's hoping it works out for the best possible scenario.

I think my professor gave me his pneumonia. I just got back (an hour ago?) from the morning drive back to Berea, and luckily the roads were clear and I made it back without any problems. But I have class in half an hour, and boy am I tired and not wanting to go. But it is the second week of class. But I have a head cold. But, but, but.

I'm sorry you're dealing with so much, Gud. I hope everything works out for the best for everyone involved. {{{{ }}}}}

vw & sj - Health~ma and no more pain~ma to the both of you. And sj, I agree with Plei that you should type up a letter of complaint for both HR and the ADA as soon as you can. The way they've treated you is bs.

Yay for Ellie standing! Boo for owies but I'm glad it was a simple owie.

Juliana, I'm glad to hear you're feeling better.