I have to file in CT (shorter waiting period, plus that's where we both lived until 6 months ago), but I somehow have to do it from here. I'm so stressed that I feel like I'm going to snap in two. I tried to get the do-it-yourself thing, but there's a lot of debt and a lot of assets involved and I don't know if I can do it by myself.
You know, I just... I woke up, and I looked in the mirror, and I thought, hey, what's with all the sin? I need to change. I'm... I'm dirty. I'm, I'm bad with the... sex and the envy and that, that loud music us kids listen to nowadays.
Buffy ,'Lessons'
Spike's Bitches 28: For the Safety of Puppies...and Christmas!
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Pix - Jan 13, 2006 12:54:10 pm PST #4431 of 10001
The status is NOT quo.
Aims - Jan 13, 2006 12:54:17 pm PST #4432 of 10001
Shit's all sorts of different now.
Did she at least spell it right?
Yes, she did.
Cass - Jan 13, 2006 12:54:37 pm PST #4433 of 10001
Bob's learned to live with tragedy, but he knows that this tragedy is one that won't ever leave him or get better.
Someone please tell me that I can find a way to afford this: [link]The more you work out beforehand, the less it costs.
In a perfect world, you want to have figured these things out and then have the mediators fill out all of the paperwork and file it. Which it huge because the paperwork is a nightmare.
But the costs are minimized greatly if the mediators aren't working for hours and hours and months trying to get you both to come to an agreement.
There will be things that need to be mediated obviously, but the more you agree on beforehand, the easier. In more ways than money.
Pix - Jan 13, 2006 12:56:26 pm PST #4434 of 10001
The status is NOT quo.
Thanks, Cass. I think we'll be pretty much in agreement over everything; we just can't handle all the paperwork ourselves.
ETA: Well, not everything, but enough. I will be taking the major financial hit in this, but then again I'm the one that left.
Cass - Jan 13, 2006 12:56:54 pm PST #4435 of 10001
Bob's learned to live with tragedy, but he knows that this tragedy is one that won't ever leave him or get better.
Yes, she did.It's a start? Okay, not a nice one, but a start...
Aims - Jan 13, 2006 12:57:33 pm PST #4436 of 10001
Shit's all sorts of different now.
Now the original mean poster has come back and made a lame-ass apology.
Daisy Jane - Jan 13, 2006 12:57:52 pm PST #4437 of 10001
"This bar smells like kerosene and stripper tears."
Pretty much what Cass said, but even with lawyers, I've not seen it cost that much. In the thousands, maybe, but tens of thousands, uhm, no.
Laura - Jan 13, 2006 12:58:14 pm PST #4438 of 10001
Our wings are not tired.
Someone please tell me that I can find a way to afford this: [link]
I did the DIY method. It wasn't quick. I wasn't willing to spend money for lawyers. I wrote up everything the way I thought made sense, sent it to him, etc. As Cass said, the more you can do yourself the better.
Cass - Jan 13, 2006 1:00:22 pm PST #4439 of 10001
Bob's learned to live with tragedy, but he knows that this tragedy is one that won't ever leave him or get better.
I think we'll be pretty much in agreement over everything; we just can't handle all the paperwork ourselves.No, you really can't. Mine was far less complicated and there was just no way.
If you are not fighting things, the mediation costs won't be scary high. And you want the divorce, so you pay and move on. It's cheaper, by far, than lawyers or making a mistake on your own.
Pix - Jan 13, 2006 1:01:51 pm PST #4440 of 10001
The status is NOT quo.
Thanks. I contacted a local mediator who also has practiced in CT. We'll see where that leads.