What was the debate about?

DxH called tonight to check on me, my family and see how my grandma is doing. Reminded me to take care of myself right now as well as taking care of everyone else. And insisted that I could always call him, day or night. It was sweet.

We talk for a while and it turns out that he's looking for "big boy" (i.e. real) furniture. Again. Still. Let's just say it's been a theme.

He bought a new chair last weekend but is still unsure about a new couch. Mind you, he has no couch currently.

Turns out there is a specific couch he likes but, "buying a couch just seems like such a big commitment."

"Wait. You've been married. Two times. And a *couch* might be more of a commitment than you are ready for?"

Once he started to catch his breath from laughing, he teased that I sounded a little bitter.

So I asked how nice the couch is.

Overstuffed leather.

I can accept that.

Wait, he's dating an overstuffed leather couch and he hasn't married it yet?

What is he waiting for?

No, see he's taking it slow with the couch. There are regular visits, longing looks... I think they've even spent a significant amount of time snuggling. But actually buying the couch is a big step. You want to be sure it will be forever.

You want to be sure it will be forever.

Well, yes and no. At least 15-20 years, sure, but forever ? I've got a 1970s monstrosity in the living room that begs to differ

So what you are saying is that you and the couch have grown apart and maybe it is time to try living seperate lives?

Or, just that things need to be spiced up and perhaps that cozy ottoman you've had your eye on would be just the thing?

Oh, this thing I never bought. We inherited it from Z's parents.

So, really, it's more like a new in-law for me. Or, rather, since it brought along matching chairs, a whole set of in-laws.

Oh, this thing I never bought.

At least 15-20 years, sure, but forever ? I've got a 1970s monstrosity in the living room that begs to differ.

So what you are saying is that you and the couch have grown apart and maybe it is time to try living seperate lives?

Or, just that things need to be spiced up and perhaps that cozy ottoman you've had your eye on would be just the thing?

Slip covers, like the micro-skirted nurse's uniforms in the Fredrick's of Hollywood catalogue, a little fantasy dress-up never hurt anyone. Or, well, if it does, that's a whole other category of spicy.

Dh and I have an old futon frame from our early life...and really it is me that has a hard time with commiting to a new couch...

honestly, I think it is the new futon cover. purple, and a little large so it slips on and off so easily...