What do you do after the second date? Or the fourth?

I don't think I've ever had a second date that didn't turn into a Thing. I've had very few second dates.

I'm fine with the guy going away and thinking about the first date and deciding maybe not and telling me so. Just like I'm fine with the idea of me doing that too.

Once again, I'm ita.

I really don't like the idea of ignoring e-mails, ever.

And again.

The two times I've met people from an online dating site, it wasn't a date

And then I'm not.

I haven't been on a date in so long I have no idea how they work, anymore.

I'm trying to keep being on them, and still I have absolutely no idea how they work.

I like the idea of dates. I just have no idea what they're really like.

Now, that's not to say I'm comfortable with the idea of dating -- it often weirds me out, and right now seems appalling and horrible.

What do you do after the second date? Or the fourth?

I stopped seeing a guy after a third date (I default to people getting a min of 3 dates if they seek them out). I liked date one, did not like date two and was really looking on date three to see if he was picking up on my cues. He wasn't, but finally asked me where I saw this going when I indicated I was ready to go home. I was honest, it was not going to develop into a relationship and I wasn't looking for a fling, so either friends or nothing.

First dates and job interviews have a lot in common.

He wasn't, but finally asked me where I saw this going when I indicated I was ready to go home

What if he hadn't asked. Would you have told him on the date?

cereal:

First dates and job interviews have a lot in common.

I like job interviews. I'm good at them. And they usually translate into me being wanted more.

I dunno, probably because he probably would have tried to kiss me again and Hells no.

that's not to say I'm comfortable with the idea of dating

I would like, for just the once, to go past the phase of "blind date" and telling-the-same-stories-about-myself and get to the part where I get to spend time with and know better somebedy I already like and trust.

I like job interviews. I'm good at them. And they usually translate into me being wanted more.

Yes, well, that's because you're all qualified and stuff! Me, not so much. I find job interviews stressful and depressing. They make me a big ball of anxiety.