What do you do after the second date? Or the fourth?
I stopped seeing a guy after a third date (I default to people getting a min of 3 dates if they seek them out). I liked date one, did not like date two and was really looking on date three to see if he was picking up on my cues. He wasn't, but finally asked me where I saw this going when I indicated I was ready to go home. I was honest, it was not going to develop into a relationship and I wasn't looking for a fling, so either friends or nothing.
First dates and job interviews have a lot in common.
He wasn't, but finally asked me where I saw this going when I indicated I was ready to go home
What if he hadn't asked. Would you have told him on the date?
cereal:
First dates and job interviews have a lot in common.
I like job interviews. I'm good at them. And they usually translate into me being wanted more.
I dunno, probably because he probably would have tried to kiss me again and Hells no.
that's not to say I'm comfortable with the idea of dating
I would like, for just the once, to go past the phase of "blind date" and telling-the-same-stories-about-myself and get to the part where I get to spend time with and know better somebedy I already like and trust.
I like job interviews. I'm good at them. And they usually translate into me being wanted more.
Yes, well, that's because you're all qualified and stuff! Me, not so much. I find job interviews stressful and depressing. They make me a big ball of anxiety.
That sounded all boasty, didn't I?
Well, I do like job interviews. They're a chance to show off and playact in a way I can't imagine a first date being. I also don't mind professional rejection as much as personal, even though the concrete implications to my life are larger.
I would like, for just the once, to go past the phase of "blind date" and telling-the-same-stories-about-myself and get to the part where I get to spend time with and know better somebedy I already like and trust.
Oh, hell yes. This is me entirely.
Dear Shrift,
You are too qualified. Would your current workplace be in a world of hurt were you to up and leave? I think so. SO you are qualified and valuable. When you don't believe that, a piece of porn gets burned and dies.
