You knew WHEN the relationship was gonna end while you were in it?
This one. He had a plane ticket a couple months out. He ended up postponing it some, but we both knew he was moving on way before we started.
Slay-er? Chosen One. She who hangs out a lot in cemeteries? You're kidding. Ask around. Look it up: Slayer comma The.
Buffy ,'Showtime'
Natter 41: Why Do I Click on ita's Links?!
Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
§ ita § - Dec 29, 2005 2:03:05 pm PST #5947 of 10002
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.
msbelle - Dec 29, 2005 2:06:58 pm PST #5948 of 10002
I remember the crazy days. 500 posts an hour. Nubmer! Natgbsb
that is crazy. Could that bit of info been what made him relationship material?
I would hate someone calling me after a date to talk about where we see things. And I don't really care what they tell me about why they don't want to see me. I don't really care why, the end result is the same.
Matt the Bruins fan - Dec 29, 2005 2:07:16 pm PST #5949 of 10002
"I remember when they eventually introduced that drug kingpin who murdered people and smuggled drugs inside snakes and I was like 'Finally. A normal person.'” —RahvinDragand
It's almost a hypothetical for me until this latest dating experience, because in general I've gone out on very few dates which have left me with any desire to see the person again, and I'm happy not to press the point if they don't. But if I'm asked out on a second date by someone that I don't want to see again, I level with him that I don't feel any chemistry or whatever and decline—I figure treating him like an adult rather than waffling or playing games is the best approach, and I expect that treatment in return. A polite refusal may be disappointing, but it's not insulting the way being strung along is.
erikaj - Dec 29, 2005 2:10:09 pm PST #5950 of 10002
Always Anti-fascist!
Especially since they are not going to be as honest with me as with their friends(Which I suppose courtesy demands, in some cases, but it's not like they are interested in helping me fix myself.)
§ ita § - Dec 29, 2005 2:10:38 pm PST #5951 of 10002
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.
that is crazy.
Worked out well at the time.
Could that bit of info been what made him relationship material?
Or it might have set a pattern in motion. Don't know. See why I get curious about what real people do?
I don't really care what they tell me about why they don't want to see me.
I'm more opposed to not being told anything at all. I'm not in a position to judge if it's really him or me or whatever, but I like "I'm busy" to mean just that, not be code for "too busy for you"
I would hate someone calling me after a date to talk about where we see things.
If we're talking "Let's go on another date" vs. "I don't think we should go on another date." I'm fine with it. If it's about my prospects as a wife or mother (or lack thereof) I don't want to go there.
Steph L. - Dec 29, 2005 2:12:33 pm PST #5952 of 10002
this mess was yours / now your mess is mine
I've solved this whole dating problem by not dating. I imagine this doesn't work as well for people who are less misanthropic.
Ah, Shrift and I are as one. (But not dating!)
I look around at other people who take the existence of love and relationships -- well, not for granted, but have a sense through experience of how they fit into people's lives.
Also this. (I guess that would make Shrift, ita, and I as three.) Dating just seems like WAY more trouble than its worth. Maybe I'll know I've found The One when dating doesn't seem like a pain in the ass.
Allyson - Dec 29, 2005 2:13:54 pm PST #5953 of 10002
Wait, is this real-world child support, where the money goes to buy food for the kids, or MRA fantasyland child support where the women just buy Ferraris and cocaine? -Jessica
Back from many errands. Got cat litter, cat food, some toiletry stuff to pack, dropped off Tim's gift from Strega (he loved it, Strega, and has stuff for you), and am now about to have some leftover wonton soup and noodles before attacking the rest of the cleaning, and then pack.
I'm terrified that I'll oversleep tomorrow for some reason. I usually take redeyes, not morning flights.
amych - Dec 29, 2005 2:14:54 pm PST #5954 of 10002
Now let us crush something soft and watch it fountain blood. That is a girlish thing to want to do, yes?
Maybe I'll know I've found The One when dating doesn't seem like a pain in the ass.
IME, it's more the realization of "I don't have to date any more, ever!" that clues you in.
Topic!Cindy - Dec 29, 2005 2:15:45 pm PST #5955 of 10002
What is even happening?
If we're talking "Let's go on another date" vs. "I don't think we should go on another date." I'm fine with it. If it's about my prospects as a wife or mother (or lack thereof) I don't want to go there.Yes, I was taking a very non-Orthodox, American view of what Nilly mentioned. I wouldn't have wanted to know too much, but hated the insincere "I'll call you." Don't say that, if you're not going to. Just say "So long," it won't hurt. I promise.
§ ita § - Dec 29, 2005 2:16:13 pm PST #5956 of 10002
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.
it's more the realization of "I don't have to date any more, ever!" that clues you in.
I've already had that realisation.
It's why I'm single.