Opinions differ, ita. I think it's emotional cowardice to go to the "drift away" thing. Although it's very very common in our society. I prefer clear communication. Someone not calling could be interpreted a variety of ways - it could be they got busy. But when someone says "Thanks, but I'm not interested in another date." (or however it needs to be phrased to best be politely candid), it's clear.
Patron: That girl is a witch. Mal: Yeah, but she's our witch.
'Safe'
Natter 41: Why Do I Click on ita's Links?!
Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
Spidra Webster - Dec 29, 2005 1:22:26 pm PST #5917 of 10002
I wish I could just go somewhere to get flensed but none of the whaling ships near me take Medicare.
§ ita § - Dec 29, 2005 1:22:51 pm PST #5918 of 10002
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.
the very fact that things aren't working is reason enough in and of itself
But in the scenario about which I'm curious, it's not that things aren't working. It's that things are working better with someone else.
Scrappy - Dec 29, 2005 1:23:49 pm PST #5919 of 10002
Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.
But that means it's NOT really working--if it was really working, you wouldn't be more interested in the other person.
Jesse - Dec 29, 2005 1:23:57 pm PST #5920 of 10002
Sometimes I trip on how happy we could be.
What Robin said.
Saying "it just doesn't work" means there's nothing inherently wrong with either him or me, it's just that we don't fit.
Also Nilly. It's so true! And wouldn't you rather hear even a bullshit line than that you're boring or something?
tommyrot - Dec 29, 2005 1:24:48 pm PST #5921 of 10002
Sir, it's not an offence to let your cat eat your bacon. Okay? And we don't arrest cats, I'm very sorry.
But in the scenario about which I'm curious, it's not that things aren't working. It's that things are working better with someone else.Thank you for going out with me. Although you are very qualified for the position(s), I've decided to go with someone else. I'll keep your resume on file.
Matt the Bruins fan - Dec 29, 2005 1:25:00 pm PST #5922 of 10002
"I remember when they eventually introduced that drug kingpin who murdered people and smuggled drugs inside snakes and I was like 'Finally. A normal person.'” —RahvinDragand
If they are a tool, they will demand to know what is going on, become a stalker, or just keep trying to contact you.
I guess I qualify for tooldom then, because if I like someone and am not given a specific reason to go away (mind you, "I'm not interested in going out anymore" is a perfectly acceptable reason), I'll keep asking him out.
tommyrot - Dec 29, 2005 1:25:37 pm PST #5923 of 10002
Sir, it's not an offence to let your cat eat your bacon. Okay? And we don't arrest cats, I'm very sorry.
But that means it's NOT really working--if it was really working, you wouldn't be more interested in the other person.
Some might disagree.
(I have no personal experience with this one way or the other.)
Nilly - Dec 29, 2005 1:26:02 pm PST #5924 of 10002
Swouncing
But in the scenario about which I'm curious, it's not that things aren't working. It's that things are working better with someone else.
Oh, sorry, I misunderstood.
Like you, I don't know anything about that.
Also, from reading your posts, it's getting clear to me how "framed" dating (and especially blind-dating) in my social circle is. It's considered extremely rude to not call and clear up "where we're standing", either way, after even the one (blind) date.
erikaj - Dec 29, 2005 1:26:56 pm PST #5925 of 10002
Always Anti-fascist!
Maybe, if it looks like a love thing, "I've met someone else," would be appropriate, as long as you are not insensitive enough to rhapsodize about their virtues.(Which someone did to me once...that stung a bit, even though I wasn't all invested.)
Jesse - Dec 29, 2005 1:27:03 pm PST #5926 of 10002
Sometimes I trip on how happy we could be.
Thank you for going out with me. Although you are very qualified for the position(s), I've decided to go with someone else. I'll keep your resume on file.
Totally this! "We received many more worthy applications than we were able to fund. This should not reflect badly on the quality of your proposal."