Timelies all!
Yay! Our new furniture is here! Guess we'll be spending part of this weekend rearranging and putting away stuff..
On the down side, I seem to have a bit of a cold.(Probably the same cold that my nephlets had when we were in Florida)
Wash: Mal, your dead army buddy's on the bridge! Zoe: He ain't dead. Wash: Oh.
'The Message'
Natter 41: Why Do I Click on ita's Links?!
Off-topic discussion. Wanna talk about corsets, duct tape, or physics? This is the place. Detailed discussion of any current-season TV must be whitefonted.
Sheryl - Dec 29, 2005 1:04:00 pm PST #5903 of 10002
Fandom means never having to say "But where would I wear that?"
Jesse - Dec 29, 2005 1:04:45 pm PST #5904 of 10002
Sometimes I trip on how happy we could be.
I'm obsessed with Google SMS.
And I think msbelle is looking for [link]
I don't know from dating more than one person at a time. My impression is that usually you just drift away after a couple dates if it's not going anywhere, though.
Kathy A - Dec 29, 2005 1:06:35 pm PST #5905 of 10002
We're very stretchy. - Connie Neil
Colds aren't fun, but at least it's not the flu. According to the radio, there's been a nasty stomach virus floating around the Chicago area for the past couple of weeks--it'll keep you in the bathroom for 6-8 hours, leave you weak for a day or two, and then you're all right again. I had a similar bug Thanksgiving weekend ten years ago, and it was not a fun holiday.
§ ita § - Dec 29, 2005 1:08:44 pm PST #5906 of 10002
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.
You know, I used to think that site was Cute Overlord. Not that I've ever visited it, though.
My impression is that usually you just drift away after a couple dates if it's not going anywhere, though.
How does one person just drift away though? I'm so clueless about this stuff. It just seems that once you've gone on real dates, if one of you is presented with a reason to call it off that the other person doesn't know about, you have to make some excuse. It's not just that it's not going anywhere -- it's that you'd rather go there with the other person.
Scrappy - Dec 29, 2005 1:10:20 pm PST #5907 of 10002
Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.
You can tell someone things aren't working for you, without saying why.
Jesse - Dec 29, 2005 1:11:08 pm PST #5908 of 10002
Sometimes I trip on how happy we could be.
You really shouldn't have to make an excuse, like with any invitation. "No thanks" should be plenty. Again, not that I've ever dated more than one person at a time, but I've also never given or heard a specific reason for not going out again. And more often than not, it's just been a lack of contact.
msbelle - Dec 29, 2005 1:11:44 pm PST #5909 of 10002
I remember the crazy days. 500 posts an hour. Nubmer! Natgbsb
drift away = not returning calls, not making the calls yourself, having other plans when asked out.....usually, if it is just after a few dates the other person will beg off. If they are a tool, they will demand to know what is going on, become a stalker, or just keep trying to contact you.
§ ita § - Dec 29, 2005 1:14:08 pm PST #5910 of 10002
Well not canonically, no, but this is transformative fiction.
You can tell someone things aren't working for you, without saying why.
"It's not you, it's me"?
You really shouldn't have to make an excuse
Is that because it's not a real breakup? I am looking at this as more than a series of invitations...or is there an assumption that nothing physical has happened here?
not that I've ever dated more than one person at a time
Hey, you have the advantage over me, since my statement ends three words earlier than yours.
shrift - Dec 29, 2005 1:14:42 pm PST #5911 of 10002
"You can't put a price on the joy of not giving a shit." -Zenkitty
I'm crushing on the guy who's just had the baby, but only when he's all business.
Oh my god, Hughes! I love Hughes and his knives. His behavior always makes me think of The Scarlet Pimpernel.
msbelle - Dec 29, 2005 1:17:13 pm PST #5912 of 10002
I remember the crazy days. 500 posts an hour. Nubmer! Natgbsb
Is that because it's not a real breakup?
I think so. A couple of dates is not "dating someone" hell, I'd argue that sex does not equal "dating someone". If the time and investment has not been made for it to be a relationship, then passivity and non-response should be enough to stop it.
The hard part can be if both parties do not view things the same way. One thinks relationship, one thinks person I barely know. One thinks couple of date, one is making wedding plans.