Spike's Bitches 26: Damn right I'm impure!
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risque (and frisque), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
If you have a cordless phone and can hear it ring in the shower...go take a shower.
Damn. Why didn't I think of that? See...I'm just not all here right now. It's too late, though. I'd have to leave in the next 6 minutes to make it to class on time. I kind of was planning on taking the day off anyway, so it's ok. I've got a long weekend ahead (we get Monday off), so that gives me some time to get caught up on some things, including myself. I am hopeful that next week will be better. While this has been a tough couple of days, I've managed to stay out of the hospital, keep in contact with my therapist and get through it. This too shall pass. This I know. And I think it's passing more quickly than it has in the past. So, that's a bit encouraging.
You just reminded me. I got a call a couple of days ago from C's old therapist. Apparently she had an appointment last month that neither of us knew about, so obviously, I didn't take her.
The therapist asked me a bunch of questions, how she was doing in school, how she was adjusting to being in a different environment, was she still taking her meds. Well, the answer there is no. Her dad didn't refill her perscription, so she has been off anti-depressants since early summer.
I think C is doing pretty well and she has said she is not interested in seeing a therapist up here, so I haven't pushed. But now I'm wondering if I should encourage that more.
The kids have today off from school. There's some sort of teacher workshop. We have Monday off, and Scott is taking a vacation day. It's in the 70s and going to get warmer, but can we go to Maine, no. We can't go to Maine, because we're going to the Circus tomorrow. Don't get me wrong. I enjoyed it the last time we went (vw, was that last year, or the year before), but it's a lot of frigging money that I'd rather spend otherwise.
Argh. I'm logging in from the embassy while waiting for Robert.
The baby wasn't as asleep as previously reported, and woke up fussy. And I didn't get him calmed down before the babysitter showed up, and he took one look at her and started SHRIEKING!!!
So I don't know what to do. I know she frightened him once, a couple months ago, but she's been over 3 times since then and to the best of my knowledge there's been no problem. He's really good with other people.
Guess it's time to find a new sitter. Grr argh.
How did she frighten him, Raq?
We just had a fire alarm and evacuated.
Of course, if it were terrorists we walked out of a nice big building and on to the UN's plaza. Oops.
Well, no fire, no bomb... all is well.
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anti-jumpiness to NYistas...
How did she frighten him, Raq?
The first time she came over to sit when I was going out (she'd sat him before with me there), he was playing and didn't see her right away, and she kind of lunged for him and swept him up, saying "MALLORY!!!!"
Totally
invaded his personal space. It took about 30 minutes to peel him off the ceiling.
Since then, when she comes in I will hold him, and tell him she's here, and let him see her from a distance, and then she'll come over and pet him, but he still cries. Any stranger on the street gets to pinch his cheeks and smack their face with his hands, but not the sitter.
Thing is, when I come back, Mallory's usually content with her.
Thing is, when I come back, Mallory's usually content with her.
Okay, he's just smart then, and knows her coming means you going. If you trust her, and her doing anything that frightened him was a only one-time mistake and miscalculation, I wouldn't worry too much.
Has she ever told you how long it takes for him to calm down after you leave? I've found this is key. If it's only a little while, please go out and have a good time. You have to live...for me. ;)
Seriously though...He LOVES
you.
You are probably his favorite person right now, and Daddy's an acceptable substitute. He's attached to you (this is all good). So, he shows that by demonstrating that he knows the babysitter's presense means you'll soon be absent, and that he thinks that is decidedly of the suck.
Thing is, when I come back, Mallory's usually content with her.
Yeah. My 19 year old sitter loves Owen to death and usually wants instant hugs and kisses. But he started being wary of me leaving around 14 months or so and will cry when I hand him over to her.
But when I return, he's happily playing with her on the floor. It might not be so much the sitter as the fact that he associates sitter with Mommy leaving. That's traumatic.
I knew I was going to x-post with Cindy. *g*
Okay, he's just smart then, and knows her coming means you going.
I was wondering if this was what it was. The fact that babycenter just told me that babies can't remember for longer than 3 days made me think it couldn't be this, but the look he gives me when I give him over to her! Heartbreaking.
She says it usually takes about 10-15 minutes to calm him down, but he gets upset again if he naps, and wakes up, and sees her.