The kids have today off from school. There's some sort of teacher workshop. We have Monday off, and Scott is taking a vacation day. It's in the 70s and going to get warmer, but can we go to Maine, no. We can't go to Maine, because we're going to the Circus tomorrow. Don't get me wrong. I enjoyed it the last time we went (vw, was that last year, or the year before), but it's a lot of frigging money that I'd rather spend otherwise.
We're deep in space, corner of No and Where.
Mal ,'Objects In Space'
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Topic!Cindy - Oct 07, 2005 5:15:59 am PDT #7046 of 10001
What is even happening?
Volans - Oct 07, 2005 5:30:37 am PDT #7047 of 10001
move out and draw fire
Argh. I'm logging in from the embassy while waiting for Robert.
The baby wasn't as asleep as previously reported, and woke up fussy. And I didn't get him calmed down before the babysitter showed up, and he took one look at her and started SHRIEKING!!!
So I don't know what to do. I know she frightened him once, a couple months ago, but she's been over 3 times since then and to the best of my knowledge there's been no problem. He's really good with other people.
Guess it's time to find a new sitter. Grr argh.
Topic!Cindy - Oct 07, 2005 5:31:39 am PDT #7048 of 10001
What is even happening?
How did she frighten him, Raq?
Trudy Booth - Oct 07, 2005 5:32:13 am PDT #7049 of 10001
Greece's financial crisis threatens to take down all of Western civilization - a civilization they themselves founded. A rather tragic irony - which is something they also invented. - Jon Stewart
We just had a fire alarm and evacuated.
Of course, if it were terrorists we walked out of a nice big building and on to the UN's plaza. Oops.
Well, no fire, no bomb... all is well. t insert surprise bad thing here
Volans - Oct 07, 2005 5:39:24 am PDT #7050 of 10001
move out and draw fire
anti-jumpiness to NYistas...
How did she frighten him, Raq?
The first time she came over to sit when I was going out (she'd sat him before with me there), he was playing and didn't see her right away, and she kind of lunged for him and swept him up, saying "MALLORY!!!!" Totally invaded his personal space. It took about 30 minutes to peel him off the ceiling.
Since then, when she comes in I will hold him, and tell him she's here, and let him see her from a distance, and then she'll come over and pet him, but he still cries. Any stranger on the street gets to pinch his cheeks and smack their face with his hands, but not the sitter.
Thing is, when I come back, Mallory's usually content with her.
Topic!Cindy - Oct 07, 2005 5:44:13 am PDT #7051 of 10001
What is even happening?
Thing is, when I come back, Mallory's usually content with her.Okay, he's just smart then, and knows her coming means you going. If you trust her, and her doing anything that frightened him was a only one-time mistake and miscalculation, I wouldn't worry too much.
Has she ever told you how long it takes for him to calm down after you leave? I've found this is key. If it's only a little while, please go out and have a good time. You have to live...for me. ;)
Seriously though...He LOVES you. You are probably his favorite person right now, and Daddy's an acceptable substitute. He's attached to you (this is all good). So, he shows that by demonstrating that he knows the babysitter's presense means you'll soon be absent, and that he thinks that is decidedly of the suck.
Cashmere - Oct 07, 2005 5:44:57 am PDT #7052 of 10001
Now tagless for your comfort.
Thing is, when I come back, Mallory's usually content with her.
Yeah. My 19 year old sitter loves Owen to death and usually wants instant hugs and kisses. But he started being wary of me leaving around 14 months or so and will cry when I hand him over to her.
But when I return, he's happily playing with her on the floor. It might not be so much the sitter as the fact that he associates sitter with Mommy leaving. That's traumatic.
I knew I was going to x-post with Cindy. *g*
Volans - Oct 07, 2005 5:48:25 am PDT #7053 of 10001
move out and draw fire
Okay, he's just smart then, and knows her coming means you going.
I was wondering if this was what it was. The fact that babycenter just told me that babies can't remember for longer than 3 days made me think it couldn't be this, but the look he gives me when I give him over to her! Heartbreaking.
She says it usually takes about 10-15 minutes to calm him down, but he gets upset again if he naps, and wakes up, and sees her.
Cashmere - Oct 07, 2005 5:50:33 am PDT #7054 of 10001
Now tagless for your comfort.
She says it usually takes about 10-15 minutes to calm him down, but he gets upset again if he naps, and wakes up, and sees her.
Owen will cry if Christopher goes in to get him from his nap sometimes. I'm really the preferencial parent right now. When Mal wakes up, he really probably just wants to see Mommy there.
Topic!Cindy - Oct 07, 2005 5:51:05 am PDT #7055 of 10001
What is even happening?
One time, Scott and I watched his brother's kids. This was before we were married. Their little girl J was still a baby, and was a terror to babysit. Both sets of grandparents got to the point where they'd only do it in emergencies, because she could/sometimes did scream the entire time. S-i-l had her work Christmas party, which was being held at the Museum of Fine Arts, and was just fantastic. They needed a break, and the chance to go someplace grown up and nice.
It worked out that J was asleep before they left. If she woke and acted up, I can't even remember. All I remember is my nephew M. He was about 2.5. When s-i-l was going out the door, he ran over, hugged her leg, and pleaded in the sweetest voice I'd ever heard, "Mommy, please don't go. Don't go, please. Please. Stay home with me." Oof.