Spike's Bitches 26: Damn right I'm impure!
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risque (and frisque), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
I don't think that it is certain failure to not do well in middle school. It is however my task to do everything in my power to see that he does succeed. It would just be so much easier to be a bad parent.
Me, neither. I do think (for my own that is, I don't have a clue what to do with your boys, because you're that much ahead of me), right now, with Ben (who is too like me, although I still have an edge with him over Scott, somehow) that it's the time to try to persuade him to want to overcome some of his bad habits (that he gets from me), that are going to make middle school (next year--they start in 5th grade, here) and high school more difficult.
We just started school the week after Labor Day. He was already woefully behind on stuff as of last week. So, we had a Hell Week (Hellish for me, as well as for him) where I rode him fairly strictly, until he was all caught up. I'm hoping he bought into my overriding theme which was, "If you just bust your butt right now, you'll be back on top, and maintaining is ALWAYS easier than catching up."
He seems to have bought into it, but he's a nine year old boy.
Bobby has had 3 detentions for not doing his homework. Then he got a 4th for me not signing the 3rd one properly which I refuse to have him serve. We started August 11th.
We'll have a conference this week. I'm telling TPTB that this detention crap isn't working so we need a new plan. They don't allow homework to count for grades in elementary school in this county. I think it has a lot to do with the % of kids that don't have parents able to really help them properly at home. Since it doesn't count for grades the only power school has to get them to do the work is detention. Yes, we have to make him do his work, but detention doesn't mean anything to him. It just means I have to pick up car pool kids at the bus stop then pick up mine later at school. I won't be punished by school.
Homework doesn't count for grades?? Damn.
(((Emily)))
Laura, good luck with the school conference.
I'm in book heaven. Or I will be when I get home. A coworker's son was getting rid of a bunch of paperbacks and she asked me if I wanted them. I thought she was talkig about a grocery bag or so. But it's two paper boxes overflowing with books. I can't wait to get home and see what I have. Plus she said if he wants to get rid of more I can have them.
They don't allow homework to count for grades in elementary school in this county. .... Since it doesn't count for grades the only power school has to get them to do the work is detention.
This seems like insane troll logic to me. Maybe someone who is an elementary educator can explain why this makes sense.
Of course, having parents do the homework doesn't make any sense to me either, which was more the case in Fairfax.
It is a generalization, Cindy, but I think it's a generally good one. I know my sister could deal with her son better than with her daughter, and her husband could deal with the daughter better. There's variance within the genders, too, though - like Calli, my sister and I had completely different reactions to our mother (except I was the one with the screaming fights).
Mallory started wearing 6-9m size clothes, and I pulled out the clothes that a friend sent from the States before he was born. She got them at a consignment store (she
says
), but a couple of the outfits still have those anti-theft tags on them. I got them off with the Leatherman, but now I want to hassle her about where she got them!
They don't allow homework to count for grades in elementary school in this county.
Dude. I wouldn't be inclined to do the homework either, especially since I was always pretty good at pulling the necessary whatever out of my ass during tests.
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my sister and I had completely different reactions to our mother (except I was the one with the screaming fights).
I was lucky in that I was several years younger than my sister. So I could sit back, watch the sparks fly, and think, "Boy, that sure didn't work." It also "helped" that I was a total nerd in high school, and thus didn't have much in the way of parties or boyfriends to fight with Mom about. I waited until after I was out of the house to become a trial to her.
I was lucky in that I was several years younger than my sister. So I could sit back, watch the sparks fly, and think, "Boy, that sure didn't work." It also "helped" that I was a total nerd in high school, and thus didn't have much in the way of parties or boyfriends to fight with Mom about.
I'm the younger, but my sister had moved out, so I just got her as an example via my mother's "Why aren't you more like your sister?" Which included "Why are you such a nerd? Why don't you have boyfriends and go to parties?"
And this was all before I turned 15.
No, I'm not still bitter, why?
You know, I just had another flash of sympathy for Laura, having to stand up to a Brendon-Jr.-sized boy in a destructive rage. That could be a little scary!
Raq, one of the candidates for mayor in Cincinnati is named Mallory (well, that's his last name). So I see signs all over people's yards saying MALLORY For Change! or just MALLORY.
And every time, I think of *your* Mallory, and giggle at the image of him running for mayor.
This seems like insane troll logic to me.
We are talking the school board here. Teachers hands are somewhat tied.
I just had another flash of sympathy for Laura, having to stand up to a Brendon-Jr.-sized boy in a destructive rage. That could be a little scary!
Not at all. Then again, I know lots of people in the well over 6' range. I don't intimidate easily. It is one of the big reasons I think it's important to teach him to find other ways than the physical to solve problems.
