Turning down != letting down. Letting down is when somebody was entitled to depend on you. Somebody who is interviewing is not entitled to depend on you.
So, then, why does it feel so shitty?
I've been out of the abbey two days, I've beaten a lawman senseless, I've fallen in with criminals. I watched the captain shoot the man I swore to protect. And I'm not even sure if I think he was wrong.
Book ,'Serenity'
Spike's Bitches 26: Damn right I'm impure!
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risque (and frisque), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
vw bug - Sep 14, 2005 6:31:30 am PDT #2862 of 10001
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erikaj - Sep 14, 2005 6:35:13 am PDT #2863 of 10001
Always Anti-fascist!
Because they get all excited and tell you you're great as they're offering? Or possibly because culturally we still don't accept "No," as a complete sentence? Thoughts?
Scrappy - Sep 14, 2005 6:37:04 am PDT #2864 of 10001
Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.
vw, remember, the job you don't take goes to someone else who has interviewed and is sitting waiting for the phone to ring and is going to be very happy to have it. Nobody loses here.
Nora Deirdre - Sep 14, 2005 6:37:20 am PDT #2865 of 10001
I’m responsible for my own happiness? I can’t even be responsible for my own breakfast! (Bojack Horseman)
what made you choose one job over the other?
Do you feel shitty because this will be the second time you've said no to this position?
vw bug - Sep 14, 2005 6:39:52 am PDT #2866 of 10001
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what made you choose one job over the other?
Well, I haven't *totally* decided yet. But, it looks like (from my Pros/Cons list) that I'll probably take the research assistant position, because it's in my field and will probably help me get into grad school.
Do you feel shitty because this will be the second time you've said no to this position?
Nope. I'm probably saying yes to the one I said no to before.
I feel shitty, because the woman is possibly *creating* a position for me, and I'm going to probably turn that down. I feel like I'll be majorly burning a bridge.
Nora Deirdre - Sep 14, 2005 6:42:22 am PDT #2867 of 10001
I’m responsible for my own happiness? I can’t even be responsible for my own breakfast! (Bojack Horseman)
but... but, the bridge of the job that will get you into grad school and in your field is a more valuable one.
I really don't think you are burning a bridge. If you accepted the offer, and then reneged, then, yes. But, I don't think you have anything to feel guilty or shitty about. I know you *do*, but... in the big picture I don't think you need to.
vw bug - Sep 14, 2005 7:06:30 am PDT #2868 of 10001
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Oh, SHIT. I am so NOT prepared for my 4pm class. Someone shoot me for just *now* looking at my syllabus!
Nora Deirdre - Sep 14, 2005 7:09:23 am PDT #2869 of 10001
I’m responsible for my own happiness? I can’t even be responsible for my own breakfast! (Bojack Horseman)
aieeeeeee!
vw bug - Sep 14, 2005 7:11:42 am PDT #2870 of 10001
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That was just plain dumb. I thought I remembered from last week that it was a couple of chapters in the first book we were going to read. Nope. It's 54 pages from that book and 62 pages from a book I don't have with me. Go me!
Sparky1 - Sep 14, 2005 7:37:14 am PDT #2871 of 10001
Librarian Warlord
Don't beat yourself up, vw. Its a small mishap, and it certainly doesn't change the fact that you'd be a wonderful student to have in any class.
So, this morning my husband and I once again rehashed an old disagreement. When placing silverware in the dishrack to dry after it has been washed (we do not have a dishwasher) do you put it in business end up or down?