I think I really mean "going together" when I said parity. Because in the classic loud-woman/quiet-man combo, they aren't the same, but they work so well together. For example.

What happens to Jesse's Theory of Parity when the members of the couple change as they age?

I dunno, but I do know that not all couples stay together forever.

Then Jesse thinks you should get divorced.

No no! I don't think you SHOULD get divorced! I think you might grow apart and WANT to get divorced.

I just wrote a long post in which I manage to disagree with myself, and my browser killed itself in protest. I think this is a sign that I should go finish my grading so tha tI can watch "Charile and the Chocolate Factory" tomorrow.

I think I really mean "going together" when I said parity.

So you're saying that people that work well together should date?

Sounds pretty controversial to me...

So you're saying that people that work well together should date?

Sounds pretty controversial to me...

This is why I don't understand the controversy. If you see a couple where one is way better looking than the other, you can be sure there's some other element balancing that out. I mean, right?

In work news, my back-from-vacation boss has yet to give me anything to do, but he is confident he could use me for extra hours next week. @@

I never understand the way people seem to think that they need to point out to you facts about yourself.

or ask you stupid questions like "when are you going to get married" or "why aren't you married". I always want to say "because I so enjoy this line of questioning that I wouldn't dream of finding happiness so that I can always hear it"

oh, and I'm like ita -- you have to give me a clear signal that you want to given a positive response, no matter what the truth is.

If you see a couple where one is way better looking than the other, you can be sure there's some other element balancing that out. I mean, right?

Nope. Maybe looks aren't important to their dynamic. Maybe one of them really does have all the power/"good stuff", and that's how they like it.

Quick jump to end to thank Fiona for sharing the pictures. Just beautiful and touching to see your happy family.

Maybe one of them really does have all the power/"good stuff", and that's how they like it.

In my Law of Attraction, there was a subset that said generally women date less attractive men because they view themselves as less attractive than they are while men date more attractive women because men think they are more attractive than they are.

or ask you stupid questions like "when are you going to get married" or "why aren't you married".

People are lacking in boundaries. Folks who would not dream of opening mail not addressed to them or walking into a person's house unasked will traipse across emotional boundaries without any hesitation.

It is called reserve, people, or at least sense of privacy, and it's the best thing evar!

And maybe their idea of "good-looking" is different than yours. I used to hang with a lot of artists, and they would often find women beautiful who were not classically attractive--women with strong lines to their face or body or a certain grace or whatever.