Really, Perkins is doing all the bogarting

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I will totally save you. That means I have to see you first, right? I'm all about the seeing you soon.

I'll cook... Just make this insanity stop. Please.

food . adult beverages. a nice bed, with or without cat.

With please.

Perkins, I just sprayed down my little enclosed patio and puppycat bonked her head trying yo jump through the closed window. It was sad. And funny.

Why am I doing these things?

Also I am tag-wormed. Your fault also.

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Owwww. Just stepped on a piece of broken glass. No idea where it came from -- the last time I broke anything was months ago, and it was right in front of my couch, where I'm sure I've stepped a million times since then.

Hrm. The blood soaked all the way through a bandaid. Ew.

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Also I am tag-wormed. Your fault also.

My work here is done.

eta: owie Hil.

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Oh dear, Hil. Has the bleeding stopped now?

The cats are very annoyed that their patio is wet. But its got that funky indoor/outdoor/nearly astroturf carpeting so it should be dry by morning. I got icked by ants. Can't tell if I got bit yet.

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Oh dear, Hil. Has the bleeding stopped now?

Mostly, I think. I changed the bandaid, and it's at least soaking the new one much more slowly.

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Slowly enough that it is clotting and stopping or soaking enough that we need to be worried?

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I think love at first sight isn't purely sexual. Or at least, isn't necessarily. Because there's also like, and dislike, at first sight. I've certainly seen someone, and before we've spoken, thought, "Oh, I bet that's someone I'll get along with." As we become more experienced, we get pretty good at unconsciously reading all sorts of things about people.

There was experiment I can't look up now because I think I lent the book out, but if I remember correctly, people were put in a room and told to form small groups without speaking. When they were allowed to talk, they found they'd been very good at sorting themselves into similar types. Extroverts, introverts, people who grew up in huge extended families, people whose parents divorced when they were young... they tended to clump together. We're better than we know at recognizing those we are like, and unlike.

I think love at first sight is sexual attraction plus that "recognition" of someone who has the traits we're looking for. Even if we're not conscious that we're looking for them. It is not the only way people form lasting romantic pairs, and it's not a sign that you're destined to be together, but I think it's often more than just sexual attraction that got lucky.

If you've got a pattern of forming abusive relationships, you may have to override your instincts, and see feelings of attraction as a danger sign until you learn to look for a different set of traits in other people.

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Slowly enough that it is clotting and stopping

This, I think. It hasn't totally stopped yet, but it definitely seems to be getting close to stopping.

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I like the way Strega thinks, and I want to read that study.

there's also like, and dislike, at first sight

Absolutely -- and sometimes you turn out to be wrong, and sometimes you turn out to be so right, and you've just saved a shitload of time.

Hil, you keeping it elevated?

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