Preach it. Both of and all of you.
I don't really have a security blanket... unless you count Mr. Pointy.
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Spike's Bitches 25 to Life
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Aims - Aug 23, 2005 9:51:25 am PDT #8115 of 10001
Shit's all sorts of different now.
JZ - Aug 23, 2005 9:52:48 am PDT #8116 of 10001
See? I gave everybody here an opportunity to tell me what a bad person I am and nobody did, because I fuckin' rule.
Yay! Etiquette cross-post with Teppy!
Amy - Aug 23, 2005 9:53:14 am PDT #8117 of 10001
Because books.
the sniffy little Miss Manners in me is sitting here desperately wanting to pimp-slap her with an 8-volume etiquette omnibus
I would pay to watch this. Go, JZ!
Calli - Aug 23, 2005 9:54:36 am PDT #8118 of 10001
I must obey the inscrutable exhortations of my soul—Calvin and Hobbs
I've only been to 4 or 5 bridal showers. I have never been asked to pay for anything at any of them. Well, one of the showers was a potluck, so I paid for the makings of apple pie or suchlike, but beyond that it was a case of bring a gift and have fun. Did any of them involve fancy hotels or spas? Nope. Did the bride to be seem happy at all of them? Yep.
WindSparrow - Aug 23, 2005 9:55:09 am PDT #8119 of 10001
Love is stronger than death and harder than sorrow. Those who practice it are fierce like the light of stars traveling eons to pierce the night.
Aimee, I do not believe you need feel the obligation to go to the shower nor yet to drive those other people to it. How about saying something like, "Dear MoH, I have hinted at the financial constraints of my budget already. As you refuse to take these hints, I now tell you straight out. I cannot afford to pay for the privilege of attending this shower/bachelorette party. I have reason to believe that I am not the only person who has difficulty with this issue. If you cannot bring yourself to revise your plan for this celebration, I must rescind my offer of providing transportation for others, and will have to offer my regrets that I cannot attend. I do hope you see fit to change these plans: I know that you have the intelligence and creativity to come up with a celebration will allow all of us to express the love and friendship we hold for The Bride, without doing damage to those family budgets which are strained. Thank you in advance for all your help in this matter."
Steph L. - Aug 23, 2005 9:55:20 am PDT #8120 of 10001
I look more rad than Lutheranism
Yay! Etiquette cross-post with Teppy!
Because we know where it's at, baby.
NoiseDesign - Aug 23, 2005 9:55:40 am PDT #8121 of 10001
Our wings are not tired
From a bridal etiquette site:
"I would like to give the shower in a really nice restaurant, but I can't afford to pay for the guests' meals. May I ask the guests to pay for their own meals?
A: No. Entertain within your budget."
It's from here [link]
sj - Aug 23, 2005 9:55:41 am PDT #8122 of 10001
"There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea."
Third shower, first bachlorette party. I'm "supposed" to throw one in September, but I'm thinking no.
No. I could excuse one overly extravagant shower, but not 4 overly extravagant get togethers.
But one was in Michigan, one was here and one was thrown by my boss at my work.
This is different.
Steph L. - Aug 23, 2005 9:56:51 am PDT #8123 of 10001
I look more rad than Lutheranism
See, Andi is all polite and shit. My e-mail to MoH would be "Do you UNDERSTAND that when you're organizing/hosting a party, you don't MAKE THE GUESTS PAY?"
"P.S. -- Bitch, EAT IT!!!"
t edit Oooh -- e-mail her the link ND found!
erikaj - Aug 23, 2005 9:58:18 am PDT #8124 of 10001
Always Anti-fascist!
I have a best friend since childhood too(we mostly keep contact in nostalgia now, but whatev. I still love her, but I also know she is a loon.) A raised-by-hippies sort of loon, so at least we could keep the ducats out of it, but she still won't be planning substantial stuff for me. Ever.