I love erika.
I apologize for the continued bitching, I'm sure you are all sick of it, but Joe just made a point on the phone and, damned if I don't think he might be right.
This whole thing of people with money vs me is tapping into old old old unresolved feelings of mine from high school. The rich, beautiful girls all sitting around the pool making fun of me. I don't think that will truly happen, but thinking about it brings back memories of the day after Junior Prom and I seriously feel like I'm going to have a panic attack. I hate being the "poor realtion". I hate not being financially able to do what the people around me can do financially and I hate feeling like a loser in my Old Navy bathing suit for Plus Sizes while the other girls around me are in their designer bikinis, tans shining, flat tummies being flat. I've earned my tummy, I have a beautiful wonderful daughter to show for it. I have a wonderful, loving husband that adores me and would do anything for me and yet, I feel like becuase I'm not a size 4 and I don't have $$ falling out of my Dooney & Burke tote, that I'm not worthy and not good enough and basically a piece of shit. Not true, I know in my mind, but it FEELS true.
I killed it, I'm sorry. I'll go be sulky elsewhere. ;)
Hit me, Cass!
Excellent. I shall put the email together tonight. It's like a personality test, but more disturbing.
you think he wants to test his musical expertise with that "Hit me," thing. Really. Nsm.
Oh. So you're saying I should send a playlist
and
a safe word.
"I'm sorry, I can't come in today, my cat is being affectionate. I don't know when I'll be able to leave."
I think it should count as Personal Time.
Crampy McPain
You can take more now. They are a 4-6 hour drug. I'm feeling your pain too.
Aimee, don't go anywhere else. Seriously. Stay here and whine to your heart's content because you are totally not the one in the wrong here.
I have a beautiful wonderful daughter to show for it. I have a wonderful, loving husband that adores me and would do anything for me
And how many in the wedding party can say that?
Indeed, how many in the wedding party can turn to people in time zones all over the world for positive reinforcement?
Not a lot, and for that, I am so incredibly grateful and I know how lucky I am in those respects.
I feel like becuase I'm not a size 4 and I don't have $$ falling out of my Dooney & Burke tote, that I'm not worthy and not good enough and basically a piece of shit. Not true, I know in my mind, but it FEELS true.
Aimee, it's good that you recognize that this old issue could be feeding the current one, BUT -- and while I only know you and not the other people involved, I still think I'm right -- BUT the MoH is being a thoughtless, rude cow.
Even if some of your current feelings are being fueld by old feelings, that doesn't mean your reaction is wrong, because I don't think it is.
And by "reaction," I don't mean "feeling like the poor relation" -- because you ain't, and I think you know that in your brain, if not in your gut -- by "reaction," I mean "thinking that MoH is being a thoughtless rude cow by expecting everyone else to drop the kind of cash she's willing to, or, if need be, go further into debt just to play along with her Perfect Bridal Shower Fantasy."
BUT the MoH is being a thoughtless, rude cow.
Ain't no amount of past high school popularity changes this fact. She is a thoughtless, rude cow.
She is a thoughtless, rude cow.
She is indeed. People can go $200,000.00 into debt to buy the world's largest collection of ant farms if it makes them happy, but expecting other people to throw money they don't have around so the MoH can say, "What a fabulous shower I planned for you!" is entirely unreasonable. And I get the impression that that's what it's about--not giving the bride a chance to chill with her buds, but making the MoH feel like she won some mythical MoH of the Year award. Screw her.
making the MoH feel like she won some mythical MoH of the Year award
Or she's secretly playing to the mythical TLC cameras in the corner that are filming everything for a special on Amazing Bridal Showers!
I really relate to that Aimee.
Talked to my dad for the first time in months. Even when we both tryour best, it's so like Latka speaking English. "yes. No. Coke Pepsi." frustrating.
