She is a thoughtless, rude cow.

She is indeed. People can go $200,000.00 into debt to buy the world's largest collection of ant farms if it makes them happy, but expecting other people to throw money they don't have around so the MoH can say, "What a fabulous shower I planned for you!" is entirely unreasonable. And I get the impression that that's what it's about--not giving the bride a chance to chill with her buds, but making the MoH feel like she won some mythical MoH of the Year award. Screw her.

making the MoH feel like she won some mythical MoH of the Year award

Or she's secretly playing to the mythical TLC cameras in the corner that are filming everything for a special on Amazing Bridal Showers!

I really relate to that Aimee. Talked to my dad for the first time in months. Even when we both tryour best, it's so like Latka speaking English. "yes. No. Coke Pepsi." frustrating.

Aims, you are awesome, and everyone else can suck it.

Aimee, it's good that you recognize that this old issue could be feeding the current one, BUT -- and while I only know you and not the other people involved, I still think I'm right -- BUT the MoH is being a thoughtless, rude cow

Wrod.

I totally get what you are saying about the older issues. I exorcized a lot of those same demons at my 10-year reunion, but they left their greasy little fingerprints all over my brain even so. I think Emily hit it right on the button, though, that this exercize is about the MoH's insecurity issues. I'm sure she feels inadequate herself, and doesn't have a Joe, or an Em, or the Buffistas to let her know she's actually loved and cool. (Probably because she isn't).

ack... so many of the people I know are one paycheck away from disaster. and the best are about 6 pay checks ( 3 months) from disaster. So if someone says - too expensive, I believe them. could you afford a 30 dollar dinner , maybe. but when it means you can't order in pizza for 2 for three weeks, It really might not be worth it.

stumbles into thread, exhausted

Work has gone from boring to INSANE in the space of the past 6 hours. Dear gods, I'm tired.

On the other hand, its the only thing keeping my mind off of a situation I'm dealing with very similar to Aimee's, so maybe it's a good thing. (I can't post about it publically, but...it's messy. And I don't know how messy, because my last email has gone unanswered for nearly a week now. So that's happening.)

One of my classes was cancelled. It's the one credit course that meets twice a week in September. So now I will only have my two classes on Wednesday, until my other 1 credit begins in mid October. I can't seem to find anything else that will fill the hole, and I'm not sure I should.

tiggy, much recovery~ma to your aunt and cousin.

{{{Teppy}}} Feel better.

Honestly, I think with each person ordering their own food and covering their own food costs, anywhere should be fine. This is a combination bachelorette/bridal shower and yes, there are expenses, but each person can manage them--they can choose to not have drinks with dinner, to have an appetizer for their entree, they don't have to stay for dinner, etc (We left the invites open so people can each manage their own experience.)And if all else fails,this is why God invented credit cards. :)

I hate this woman, Aimee.

You're right, that *is* why God invented credit cards. I guess you can whip yours out for those who can't afford dinner.

Love this response. Also, how many showers/bachelorette parties is this.

Third shower, first bachlorette party. I'm "supposed" to throw one in September, but I'm thinking no.

I'd be willing to bet a lot of money that I'd rather spend time with Aimee than her hypothetical rich skinny "friends." The MoH needs to be whacked on the head. A lot.