Oh Gud, you're struggling so hard. I so hope you two get to some place where you're not, very soon.
Jayne: That's a good idea. Good idea. Tell us where the stuff's at so I can shoot you. Mal: Point of interest? Offering to shoot us might not work so well as an incentive as you might imagine.
'Out Of Gas'
Spike's Bitches 25 to Life
[NAFDA] Spike-centric discussion. Lusty, lewd (only occasionally crude), risque (and frisque), bawdy (Oh, lawdy!), flirty ('cuz we're purty), raunchy talk inside. Caveat lector.
Topic!Cindy - Jul 27, 2005 11:45:51 am PDT #3355 of 10001
What is even happening?
-t - Jul 27, 2005 11:46:09 am PDT #3356 of 10001
I am a woman of various inclinations and only some of the time are they to burn everything down in frustration
That sounds like a good doctor, Calli. And a good stress management system.
I'm so sorry, Gud. I wish I could help in some way.
DavidS - Jul 27, 2005 11:46:16 am PDT #3357 of 10001
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."
Pfft. You know the FIRST thing you're going to make them all do is get haircuts.
Pshaw. JZ and Juliana already have short hair. Ple will dabble in it occasionally when it suits her mood and Jilli is best suited to Jilli hair. I would certainly never presume to tell any of them how to express their style since they're all very good at their own style, which is what I appreciate best.
Besides I never make anybody do anything. Though sometimes there is the siren lure of seduction to the shorn side.
Calli - Jul 27, 2005 11:47:01 am PDT #3358 of 10001
I must obey the inscrutable exhortations of my soul—Calvin and Hobbs
I'm sorry, Gud. I have no useful advice, having never tried marriage myself, but I hope you and Ms. Gud can get to a better place soon.
Trudy Booth - Jul 27, 2005 11:48:43 am PDT #3359 of 10001
Greece's financial crisis threatens to take down all of Western civilization - a civilization they themselves founded. A rather tragic irony - which is something they also invented. - Jon Stewart
a Gud place even
Gudanov - Jul 27, 2005 11:50:15 am PDT #3360 of 10001
Coding and Sleeping
I feel like things are sort of my fault right now because when I try to do things to improve the situation I feel like I'm going through the motions rather than really having the emotion behind it and when I do that it doesn't work. Thanks for the good wishes though.
DavidS - Jul 27, 2005 11:52:22 am PDT #3361 of 10001
"Look, son, if it's good enough for Shirley Bassey, it's good enough for you."
I feel like things are sort of my fault right now because when I try to do things to improve the situation I feel like I'm going through the motions rather than really having the emotion behind it and when I do that it doesn't work.
That's unduly harsh on yourself, Gud. Your wife has a more than equal share in "alienating your affection" (as the old legal phrase would have it).
Scrappy - Jul 27, 2005 11:52:49 am PDT #3362 of 10001
Life moves pretty fast. You don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.
Gud, I am so sorry. I hope some forward momentum happens soon, for both your sakes. Being in a limbo of hurt and angry feelings is the loneliest and saddest feeling in the world.
brenda m - Jul 27, 2005 11:57:12 am PDT #3363 of 10001
If you're going through hell/keep on going/don't slow down/keep your fear from showing/you might be gone/'fore the devil even knows you're there
I feel like things are sort of my fault right now because when I try to do things to improve the situation I feel like I'm going through the motions rather than really having the emotion behind it and when I do that it doesn't work.
Maybe that's part of the problem, but I wouldn't call that your (or anyone's) fault. I'm really sorry things are going hard for you two, and hopefully this too shall pass, but try not to beat yourself up any more than you have to.
Topic!Cindy - Jul 27, 2005 12:01:24 pm PDT #3364 of 10001
What is even happening?
I feel like things are sort of my fault right now because when I try to do things to improve the situation I feel like I'm going through the motions rather than really having the emotion behind it and when I do that it doesn't work.Sometimes, you have to fake it 'til you make it. You always talk about her being angry with you, though. What sorts of things is she angry about? I don't mean for you to tell us--unless you need to--but I'm not asking in a prying sort of way, I'm just asking, because I always read her anger as her issue, not the fault of anything you're doing. Now granted, I wouldn't know her if I Xposted with her, so I'm biased. But you just seem like such a good guy. You're always working hard. You play with your kids. You do stuff around the house.
Are you doing anything that is just the two of you? Sometimes, there are problems that need to be worked on and out, and I suspect you're having those. But aside from the hard working parts of it, it never hurts to date each other--just have a break from the children, no matter how delightful they are, and just be grown ups, together, on a regular basis. A little dinner and a movie. Drinks and dancing. Even just hanging out together, without the kids.
Gah. Speaking of...I want to kidnap my husband and do all those things, right now.